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I continue to be baffled by the relationship many people have to “foreplay.” I’ve been putting the word in quotation marks for decades (driving print magazine editors crazy as far back as the 1980s), because it describes a state of mind I don’t want to endorse. First, it supposes that intercourse is “real sex,” and […]
Of course there are men who have sex with men. But they’re not all gay or bisexual. Or to put it another way, they don’t consider themselves gay or bisexual. Men who have sex with men and call themselves gay or bi—well, that’s easy to understand. But men who have sex with men and call […]
Shmuley Boteach and Pamela Anderson have co-authored an article about pornography in the Wall Street Journal. It starts by decrying the “devastation of porn addiction” and ends by saying that “porn is for losers.” Boteach is a Rabbi who has spent years telling people that sex should be restricted to committed, loving relationships. He says […]
For sixteen years and 1,000 posts, everything I’ve written in Sexual Intelligence has been about sex. This piece is, too. To get there, though, you’ll need to be a bit patient. C’mon in. I’m writing this on my way home from a week in Ireland. After a couple of days of teaching, I drove myself […]
The answer is yes. Here’s a sample of America’s complicated sexual landscape: * The U.S. Navy just named a ship after Harvey Milk, one of the first openly gay elected officials in America. Things have changed in just 22 years, when gays were barred from serving in the military. * In 2009, the city […]
The “First Amendment Defense Act”—who could quarrel with that? I do. Maybe you do, too. HR2802 prohibits the federal government from acting against anyone who “believes or acts in accordance with a religious belief” that gays shouldn’t marry or that sex belongs only in heterosexual marriage. Under this law, the feds couldn’t withhold tax exemptions, […]
As an everyday therapist, shame isn’t some abstract idea—it’s quite real to me. It’s why people keep secrets. It’s why they do exactly the opposite of what they want to—to prove that they don’t want it. It’s a big reason people behave self-destructively—unable to talk about their impulses, their feelings, or their curiosity, they act […]