Dr. Marty Klein

Changing the Way People, Politics & the Media Look at Sex

Author of Award-Winning Books Sex Therapy, Couples Counseling, Psychotherapy Lectures, Keynotes, Training Seminars
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Sexual Intelligence™ Blog

Ten Erection Disappointments That Are NOT “ED”

Men, women, and couples come to my practice each week talking about “ED”—erectile dysfunction. The term apparently refers to anyone who can’t get an erection when he wants to—once. This, of course, implies that penises should behave like ATMs—ready to do business 24/7, rain or shine. But that’s not how penises or the human brain […]

Published February 27, 2015

What Part of “Fantasy” Don’t They Understand?

The success of “50 Shades of Grey” and news about Pornhub’s most popular search terms has too many people buzzing about the alleged dangers of each. Both traditional conservatives and some self-identified feminists are condemning 50 Shades as encouraging violence against women. Clearly, these people know nothing about S/M, and not nearly enough about violence […]

Published February 24, 2015

Speech Codes, PC Politics: When America is NOT “Charlie”

I am Charlie Hebdo, standing with Free Expression and against the violence that would destroy it. Perhaps you are Charlie Hebdo, too. But is America Charlie Hebdo? In many crucial ways, no, as America becomes more offended and less tolerant of free expression every day. Last week, I called CNN’s management cowards for refusing to […]

Published January 27, 2015

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My Books

Sexual Intelligence: What We Really Want from Sex and How to Get It

Yes, there is something new to say about sex. Here's a robust perspective about how sex really is, exploring dozens of what will be "Aha!" moments for every reader!

Most people develop their model of sexuality when they have the body of a young, healthy person-which nobody has very long. Thus, we all need a different model of sexuality if we want to desire and enjoy sex throughout our lives. This book provides that model-by enhancing your Sexual Intelligence.

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Audio Programs for Professionals

Working With Couples: Successful Approaches to Challenging Cases

Working with couples can be an exciting & rich experience. But it often includes repetitive battling with clients; complaints that you don't understand one or both of them; the sense of being watched and judged; and unnecessary treatment failures.

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Ask Me Anything

Q: How can I get my object of desire to love me? We have sex together, but she says she isn't ready to commit. What should I do?

Dr. Klein: It is rarely a good idea to try to make someone commit to a relationship. Particularly if you are already having sex, this woman knows you desire her, and knows what you have to offer. She obviously isn't ready to commit, but she is interested enough to have sex periodically. If you can handle the emotional turmoil, allow things to continue as they are. If it is just too painful to have sex with her under these conditions (she might even have other sex partners), explain your difficulty to her and say goodbye.

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Lectures & Seminars

Power, Anger, Trust, & Communication

All relationships have a power component. Some of the guises this takes include passive-aggressiveness, breaking agreements, withholding sex, chronic “forgetting,” intentional incapacity, the distancer-pursuer arrangement, and outright power struggles. When couples do not deal with power issues honestly, anger results. Chronic arguing, conflicts that go unresolved, partners deliberately hurting each […]

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Upcoming Schedule

Feb.9
San Francisco, CA
Sexual Intelligence: A New View of Sexual Function & Sexual Satisfaction
Commonwealth Club
650/856-6533

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