Dr. Marty Klein

Changing the Way People, Politics & the Media Look at Sex

Author of Award-Winning Books Sex Therapy, Couples Counseling, Psychotherapy Lectures, Keynotes, Training Seminars
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Sexual Intelligence™ Blog

When Sex Isn’t About Sex

“Everything in the world is about sex, except sex, which is about power.” Yes, sex is sometimes about power. But sex can be about many different things. For some people it means “I can still get sex,” or “I can still get sex from a good-looking man/woman, or “I can still get sex from you.” […]

Published September 1, 2014

Ten Problems With Purity Balls

Purity Balls are more popular than ever. That’s the religious ceremony in which a girl (usually about 12) pledges her “purity” to her father and to God until she marries. Balls are like group weddings: dozens of dads wear tuxedos, girls wear (typically white) ball gowns, dads put gold bands on their daughters’ wedding finger, […]

Published August 26, 2014

Creating a Generation of Young Porn Criminals

I recently received the following inquiry: I just found out my 9-year-old daughter has been looking at hard-core adult porn (“Ramrod butt busters,” “Sweet on teacher,” etc.). She spent a weekend at my sister’s, who let her use her laptop. When my sister and I reviewed her internet history, it was obvious; then I looked […]

Published August 4, 2014

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My Books

Sexual Intelligence: What We Really Want from Sex and How to Get It

Yes, there is something new to say about sex. Here's a robust perspective about how sex really is, exploring dozens of what will be "Aha!" moments for every reader!

Most people develop their model of sexuality when they have the body of a young, healthy person-which nobody has very long. Thus, we all need a different model of sexuality if we want to desire and enjoy sex throughout our lives. This book provides that model-by enhancing your Sexual Intelligence.

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Audio Programs for Professionals

Working With Couples: Successful Approaches to Challenging Cases

Working with couples can be an exciting & rich experience. But it often includes repetitive battling with clients; complaints that you don't understand one or both of them; the sense of being watched and judged; and unnecessary treatment failures.

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Ask Me Anything

Q: How can I get my object of desire to love me? We have sex together, but she says she isn't ready to commit. What should I do?

Dr. Klein: It is rarely a good idea to try to make someone commit to a relationship. Particularly if you are already having sex, this woman knows you desire her, and knows what you have to offer. She obviously isn't ready to commit, but she is interested enough to have sex periodically. If you can handle the emotional turmoil, allow things to continue as they are. If it is just too painful to have sex with her under these conditions (she might even have other sex partners), explain your difficulty to her and say goodbye.

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Lectures & Seminars

The Structure of The 50-Minute Hour: Re-Thinking The Clinical Environment

Therapists handle a variety of interactions–often unexpectedly–about the logistics, context, and meaning of therapy. As we work with clients, we also relate to many other professionals, such as physicians and other therapists. Whether we’re aware of it or not, all of these communications have therapeutic impact. Indeed, how we behave […]

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Upcoming Schedule

Sept.19
Portland, Oregon
Power Dynamics in Sexual & Intimate Relationships
Oregon Psychological Association
503/253-9155

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