Sexual Intelligence™ Blog
Some gays slow to catch on to religious exceptionalism
In a recent op-ed piece, New York Times writer Frank Bruni says “I’ve been called many unpleasant things in my life…but I chafe at this latest label: A threat to your religious liberty.” Bruni is gay, and he resents people claiming that their religion allows them to discriminate against same-gender couples and individuals in arenas […]
Published January 20, 2015
Je Suis Charlie
I write for a living. I lecture large audiences for a living. I piss people off for a living. Je suis Charlie. My comrades were murdered for expressing opinions that others don’t like. Ordinarily, we’d call those murderers psychopaths. But because their instructions to kill supposedly came from their god rather than from random psychic […]
Published January 9, 2015
Is everyone on Match.com looking for a match?
In a word, no. The problem is, I see a lot of couples in which one partner is caught using Match, or Tinder, or Ashley Madison, or some other dating/hookup website. Partner B flips out, accusing partner A of cheating, or wanting to cheat. Partner A denies it, but doesn’t sound convincing: “Uh, I was […]
Published December 30, 2014
My Books
- Sexual Intelligence: What We Really Want from Sex and How to Get It
Yes, there is something new to say about sex. Here's a robust perspective about how sex really is, exploring dozens of what will be "Aha!" moments for every reader!
Most people develop their model of sexuality when they have the body of a young, healthy person-which nobody has very long. Thus, we all need a different model of sexuality if we want to desire and enjoy sex throughout our lives. This book provides that model-by enhancing your Sexual Intelligence.
Audio Programs for Professionals
Working With Couples: Successful Approaches to Challenging Cases
Working with couples can be an exciting & rich experience. But it often includes repetitive battling with clients; complaints that you don't understand one or both of them; the sense of being watched and judged; and unnecessary treatment failures.
Ask Me Anything
Q: How can I get my object of desire to love me? We have sex together, but she says she isn't ready to commit. What should I do?
Dr. Klein: It is rarely a good idea to try to make someone commit to a relationship. Particularly if you are already having sex, this woman knows you desire her, and knows what you have to offer. She obviously isn't ready to commit, but she is interested enough to have sex periodically. If you can handle the emotional turmoil, allow things to continue as they are. If it is just too painful to have sex with her under these conditions (she might even have other sex partners), explain your difficulty to her and say goodbye.
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Lectures & Seminars
Working Deeper: Counter-Intuitive Ways to Enhance Psychotherapy & Couples Counseling
We all want our work to be deeper and more effective. This workshop highlights common clinical practices that keep therapy from being as long-lasting and psychologically sophisticated as possible. Regardless of your theoretical orientation or experience in the field, this workshop will refocus your ideas and give you fresh insights […]
Upcoming Schedule
- Feb.9
- San Francisco, CA
- Sexual Intelligence: A New View of Sexual Function & Sexual Satisfaction
- Commonwealth Club
- 650/856-6533