Sexual Intelligence™ Blog
I have a close friend in Santa Cruz, a therapist, with whom I have lunch once a month. It’s usually pretty glorious, with several conversations going on at once—professional, personal, political, and mmm-this-bagel-is-perfect-isn’t-it. Yesterday we talked about women’s breasts. We were talking about breasts as symbols of sexuality—whether their owner wants that or not. We […]
Published April 30, 2016
As a sex therapist for over 30 years, one of the most common goals people have come in with is “I want to be a better lover.” Of course, different people mean different things by that. These range from “I want my partner to enjoy sex more;” to “I want to compete more effectively with […]
Published April 25, 2016
Interested in sex? Then you’re interested in politics, whether you like it or not. There are literally thousands of laws that regulate our sexual expression–who we can have sex with, what we can do, the products and pharmaceuticals we can use, the ways in which we can control our reproduction, and the ways we can […]
Published April 1, 2016
- Sexual Intelligence: What We Really Want from Sex and How to Get It
Yes, there is something new to say about sex. Here's a robust perspective about how sex really is, exploring dozens of what will be "Aha!" moments for every reader!
Most people develop their model of sexuality when they have the body of a young, healthy person-which nobody has very long. Thus, we all need a different model of sexuality if we want to desire and enjoy sex throughout our lives. This book provides that model-by enhancing your Sexual Intelligence.
Audio Programs for Professionals
Working with couples can be an exciting & rich experience. But it often includes repetitive battling with clients; complaints that you don't understand one or both of them; the sense of being watched and judged; and unnecessary treatment failures.
Ask Me Anything
Q: How can I get my object of desire to love me? We have sex together, but she says she isn't ready to commit. What should I do?
Dr. Klein: It is rarely a good idea to try to make someone commit to a relationship. Particularly if you are already having sex, this woman knows you desire her, and knows what you have to offer. She obviously isn't ready to commit, but she is interested enough to have sex periodically. If you can handle the emotional turmoil, allow things to continue as they are. If it is just too painful to have sex with her under these conditions (she might even have other sex partners), explain your difficulty to her and say goodbye.
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Lectures & Seminars
No campus subject is more timely–or more difficult to discuss–than sexual choices. On the one hand, students face date rape, AIDS, unwanted pregnancy, and peer pressure; on the other, they experience the passions of youth, the desire for closeness, and an eagerness to experiment. These presentations help students sort out […]
- Infidelity: After the Affair, Who Owns the Relationship?