Sexual Intelligence™ Blog
NBA Player Jason Collins Comes Out As Gay
* I guess that means he can’t be a Boy Scout leader no matter how good a man he is. * How long until some kid in a gym tells another kid “You play good…for a straight guy”? * So the NBA has caught up with the military. Now gays can openly shoot in both ...![]()
Published April 30, 2013
George Bush: The Man Who Tried to Ruin Sex
Southern Methodist University today unveiled the $250 million George W. Bush Presidential Library & Museum. President Obama and former Presidents Bush, Carter, and Clinton were there, along with dignitaries from across America and the world. The celebration tactfully omitted any mention of the three catastrophes of Bush’s presidency—the counterproductive wars in Iraq and Afghanistan, and ...![]()
Published April 26, 2013
How Does Your Body Know What Feels “Sexy”?
Why does spanking (or holding hands, or oral sex, or masturbation, or gentle love-making) make one person feel alive, while it makes another person feel dreadful? Or to put it another way, when both Mary and Sally say “spanking makes me feel dirty,” why does one smile approvingly and the other frown disapprovingly? Sexuality is ...![]()
Published April 12, 2013
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- Sexual Intelligence: What We Really Want from Sex and How to Get It
Yes, there is something new to say about sex. Here's a robust perspective about how sex really is, exploring dozens of what will be "Aha!" moments for every reader!
Most people develop their model of sexuality when they have the body of a young, healthy person-which nobody has very long. Thus, we all need a different model of sexuality if we want to desire and enjoy sex throughout our lives. This book provides that model-by enhancing your Sexual Intelligence.
Audio Programs for Professionals
Working With Couples: Successful Approaches to Challenging Cases
Working with couples can be an exciting & rich experience. But it often includes repetitive battling with clients; complaints that you don't understand one or both of them; the sense of being watched and judged; and unnecessary treatment failures.
Ask Me Anything
Q: How can I get my object of desire to love me? We have sex together, but she says she isn't ready to commit. What should I do?
Dr. Klein: It is rarely a good idea to try to make someone commit to a relationship. Particularly if you are already having sex, this woman knows you desire her, and knows what you have to offer. She obviously isn't ready to commit, but she is interested enough to have sex periodically. If you can handle the emotional turmoil, allow things to continue as they are. If it is just too painful to have sex with her under these conditions (she might even have other sex partners), explain your difficulty to her and say goodbye.
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Lectures & Seminars
Sex, Love, and Intimacy: Defining, Discussing, Enhancing
Many Americans use the words sex, love, and intimacy interchangeably. These do not mean the same thing, however, and our culture’s confusion about this contributes to both relationship and sexual dissatisfaction. This workshop will present innovative definitions of love, sex, and intimacy; discuss how our culture–and psychotherapy–confuses them; examine how ...
Upcoming Schedule
- May23
- Teleseminar–international
- Sexual Intelligence: What People REALLY Want From Sex–And How To Help Them Get It
- noon-1pm PDT or via recording
- http://j.mp/ZAFarW
- 650/856-6533





