Sexual Intelligence™ Blog
Seven Good Reasons People Don’t Initiate Sex
I’m still in New Zealand, travelling from North Island to South Island by (gorgeous) ferry and (fabulous) train. And I’m pondering the four days of training I just provided the country’s sex therapists and marriage counselors. As is the case in every country I work in, everyone here wants to know more about desire. Why […]
Published March 2, 2014
Better Sex: Tight Hand or Loose Vagina?
I’m in New Zealand this week training a marvelous group of psychologists and sex therapists. In addition to issues such as intimacy, menopause, power dynamics, and medication side effects, we’ve spent some time discussing pornography. Inevitably, someone raised one of today’s most popular myths: that there’s an epidemic of young men with erection problems. This […]
Published February 28, 2014
Sex Abuse: Truth, Lying, or False Memory?
Recently, an unusually personal and lengthy exchange in the New York Times has raised the question: Did Woody Allen molest Dylan Farrow when Dylan was a child? I have no idea. But millions of people have an opinion, many of them quite strong. Across the blogosphere, comments about the subject have been loud, and dominated […]
Published February 10, 2014
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Q: How can I get my object of desire to love me? We have sex together, but she says she isn't ready to commit. What should I do?
Dr. Klein: It is rarely a good idea to try to make someone commit to a relationship. Particularly if you are already having sex, this woman knows you desire her, and knows what you have to offer. She obviously isn't ready to commit, but she is interested enough to have sex periodically. If you can handle the emotional turmoil, allow things to continue as they are. If it is just too painful to have sex with her under these conditions (she might even have other sex partners), explain your difficulty to her and say goodbye.
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Existential issues are internal conflicts arising from the ongoing, inescapable confrontation with the givens of human existence–isolation, powerlessness, responsibility, death, and the desire for meaning. Most people defend themselves from fully acknowledging such realities. Therapy needs to illuminate how these defenses shape the behavior and thinking that brings people into […]
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