Sexual Intelligence: What We Really Want From Sex and How to Get It

Yes, there is something new to say about sex. Here’s a robust perspective about how sex really is, exploring dozens of what will be “Aha!” moments for every reader, such as:

  • Although most people say that what they want from sex is a combination of pleasure and closeness, that’s not what they usually focus on during sex.
  • The similarities between male and female sexuality are far more important than the differences.
  • Sexual function is a means to an end, not an end in itself. Paradoxically, focusing on “function” often undermines sexual satisfaction.
  • Anyone who thinks that orgasm is the best part of sex is missing most of what sex offers.
  • Our desire to be sexually “normal” is precisely what prevents us from becoming our authentic sexual selves.

Most people develop their model of sexuality when they have the body of a young, healthy person—which nobody has very long. Thus, we all need a different model of sexuality if we want to desire and enjoy sex throughout our lives. This book provides that model—by enhancing your Sexual Intelligence.

“If you want to improve your sex life, read this book.” – Psychology Today

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