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Anal Toy Freakout

Bob and Anne have been married for 10 years, more or less happily.

Last month she found an anal toy in the back of her husband’s sock drawer and freaked out. She then went through his website searches and found he’d been look at transgender porn. She freaked out more. She also found that he had searched a few sites looking for “grannies in Toronto,” which is where they live.

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Holiday Gifts To My Patients

Everyone needs a gift to support their healthy sexuality. Here are some for you.

As a Sex Therapist and Marriage Counselor, I go through the holiday seasons of twenty or twenty-five patients every year. And whether they’re celebrating Christmas, Chanukah, or some other winter festival, everyone’s frantic about the presents they’re giving or getting. This year is no exception.

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The Cuckold—Watching His Wife With Other Guys

In a world where jealousy seems “normal,” and where so many men talk about women who cheat, there’s another kind of man. He’s the one who fantasizes about his wife or girlfriend with another guy. He may even try to make it happen in real life. Call them cuckolds or hot-wifers (as in, ‘hey guys, check out my hot wife’); these guys are generally not really swingers, because they aren’t usually after another sexual partner for themselves. There’s more of these guys out there than you may realize. With some cuckolds, humiliation is part of the desired experience. The script…

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5 Ways to Make Sex Less Enjoyable

Life has few guarantees—and even fewer when it comes to sex. However, there are things that are guaranteed to make sex less enjoyable. How many of these have you done lately? How many of these do you think are part of “normal sex”? Imagine how much more you’d enjoy sex if you and your partner eliminated a few (or all!) of these: * Insist that orgasm is the goal (for both of you) Orgasm lasts a few seconds, making it a tiny fraction of any sexual experience. And while orgasms can be delightful, no orgasm is good enough to make…

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