Sexual Intelligence Blog

Mr. Trump: Here’s What You Need to Know About Sex

We know that President Trump has an interesting relationship to facts. When it comes to sex he’s not alone.

People believe the darnedest things about sexuality, as if it’s a relief to “know” that sex is bad for you, dangerous to others, and so powerful that we’re all just one step away from civilization collapsing under the urgency and blind selfishness of desire. But there are things that are known…

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Holiday Gifts To My Patients

Everyone needs a gift to support their healthy sexuality. Here are some for you.

As a Sex Therapist and Marriage Counselor, I go through the holiday seasons of twenty or twenty-five patients every year. And whether they’re celebrating Christmas, Chanukah, or some other winter festival, everyone’s frantic about the presents they’re giving or getting. This year is no exception.

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Vanilla Sex—Our Best Friend

Vanilla sex—or “just” vanilla sex?

“Vanilla sex” is slang for sex that is plain, or traditional, or unimaginative–not “kinky.” It generally doesn’t involve role-playing, games like BDSM, risk-taking like exhibitionism, or unusual locations. Most people don’t use “vanilla sex” as a neutral term; the implied term is frequently “just vanilla sex.”

I beg to differ.

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