When porn is an issue: Couples in conflict, & people who watch too much

When couples or individuals are disrupted by porn use, there’s always something else going on. How do we find out what that is–and effectively discuss it with clients?

Pornography use is a complex topic about which almost everyone has opinions. While many people fear and misunderstand porn, it’s important for therapists and clients alike to know the facts about its actual content, how it’s made, why people use it, and what the typical effects of its use are.

When does porn use undermine genuine intimacy? When does it indicate developmental or attachment problems? And when is it part of healthy sexual expression?

When we see a patient using porn self-destructively, how do we effectively assess for anxiety, depression, OCD, bipolar disorder, Asperger’s? What role do religion and culture play in the patient’s decisions and feelings about their porn use? When a woman is anxious (or angry) about “competing” with porn images, what intrapsychic and relational) issues might that reveal?

In this webinar, we’ll explore:

  • Assessing and treating couples and individuals distressed about pornography
  • Helping clients assess when porn use isn’t a problem
  • Unpacking the narratives of each partner, and finding out what each one really wants from therapy
  • Talking about sex when clients hesitate or resist
  • How society’s PornPanic has affected the field of therapy, bring junk neuro-science into our practice
  • Exactly what has happened to the rates of sexual violence, child exploitation, and divorce since broadband internet brought 24/7 porn into everyone’s home?
  • Why the “porn addiction” model can’t resolve the deeper issues—and learning a model that does
  • The relationship deficits and conflicts—such as desire discrepancies, unresolved infidelity, poor body image, performance anxiety, and emotional isolation—that couples avoid by making porn the issue

We’ll also discuss how to avoid therapeutic traps, such as getting too involved in the content of the porn; overlooking people’s feelings about masturbation; privileging religious rigidity; dependence on gender stereotypes; and assuming that porn preferences reflect actual desires.


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