Words express ideas, so words are important. Editing the words of our activist heroes so they fit better with today’s political correctness is dishonest. And words like “transphobic” can be used to attack allies & well-meaning people; they educate no one, persuade no one, and may demand an ideological purity that blocks the progress of social justice.
I trust most children to accurately know if they’re hungry, cold, or need a bathroom. I don’t trust children to accurately know if they require medicine, should take math class, or need to lose weight.
I trust children to know if they feel uncomfortable, unhappy, lonely, isolated, or different. I don’t trust children to know the best ways to resolve those feelings (it’s our job to teach them). And the more extreme their suggestions are, the less we should trust them.