Unlike other blogs and sexperts, I don’t offer to help you have mind-blowing sex.
But using words, lube, breathing, and socks, here’s how you can have sex that’s easier, more enjoyable, and more emotionally satisfying.
Since most adults usually have sex when they’re tired…
Michael Castleman is the world’s most popular sex writer.
In his wonderful new book “Sizzling Sex,” Castleman cheerfully guides readers of all ages through the mess that Americans have made out of sex. He has always emphasized scientific evidence with an approach that supports every person’s authentic sexuality.
Whether you’re a virgin, a senior citizen needing reassurance, or a couple who wants to try a few new things, this practical, reassuring book is for you.
Dr. Debby Herbenick’s latest research from the Kinsey Institute shows that an astounding number of young people are engaged in choking (actually, strangling) during sex.
Are they really enjoying it—or has sex become more about power than about pleasure and connection?
Enjoying sex more doesn’t require exotic techniques, new positions, a sexier partner, or losing weight.
Here are 10 PRACTICAL tips that will actually work.
What Is kinky sex? Does It matter?
There’s actually no exact definition of kink, so feel free to say that what you do is or isn’t kinky.
Your sexuality is an experience, not a category. Shakespeare had it right—a rose smells the same no matter what you call it.
But you might be more willing to smell something if I told you it was a flower rather than a skunk. And so some people stay away from exploring sexual behaviors they might enjoy just because they think the activities are “kinky”—“and,” they emphasize, “I’m not a kinky person.”
Patients tell me they want sex to be “natural and spontaneous.” They want it to be easy and enjoyable, a source of pleasure, comfort, and connection.
And yet year after year, these same perfectly nice people construct sex so that it’s complicated, frustrating, and anxiety-provoking–because of their ideas about sex.