Dr. Debby Herbenick’s latest research from the Kinsey Institute shows that an astounding number of young people are engaged in choking (actually, strangling) during sex.
Are they really enjoying it—or has sex become more about power than about pleasure and connection?
Enjoying sex more doesn’t require exotic techniques, new positions, a sexier partner, or losing weight.
Here are 10 PRACTICAL tips that will actually work.
What Is kinky sex? Does It matter?
There’s actually no exact definition of kink, so feel free to say that what you do is or isn’t kinky.
Your sexuality is an experience, not a category. Shakespeare had it right—a rose smells the same no matter what you call it.
But you might be more willing to smell something if I told you it was a flower rather than a skunk. And so some people stay away from exploring sexual behaviors they might enjoy just because they think the activities are “kinky”—“and,” they emphasize, “I’m not a kinky person.”
Patients tell me they want sex to be “natural and spontaneous.” They want it to be easy and enjoyable, a source of pleasure, comfort, and connection.
And yet year after year, these same perfectly nice people construct sex so that it’s complicated, frustrating, and anxiety-provoking–because of their ideas about sex.
Yesterday I started a five-campus lecture tour. Co-sponsored by the Secular Student Association and funded by the website SexEd.Net and its owner Steve Markoff, I started in Utah State University. I’ll end at M.I.T. in Cambridge, Massachusetts.
Better erections, more (or some) orgasms, wetter vaginas; less shame, guilt, anxiety, or embarrassment.
These are some of the things you may want in 2020. Here are some ways to get closer to them.