Here are some suggested resolutions regarding your sexual behavior in 2019—specifically, what you should promise yourself to NOT do.
Here are some suggested resolutions regarding your sexual behavior in 2019—specifically, what you should promise yourself to NOT do.
As a sex therapist, I work with couples every week in which one partner wants more sex than the other.
When it’s a small disparity people generally work it out. But when one person wants sex twice a week and other wants it twice a year, many couples simply can’t cope. Ideally, couples would struggle over this together: what are WE going to do about OUR problem?
What’s more common, unfortunately, is that each partner sees themselves as having the primary pain. And each person looks at the other and says what are YOU going to do about MY suffering that YOU’VE created?
Blaming porn for what’s wrong with our sex lives is easy. But when men behave like jerks in bed, there’s are always reasons. Talking about them–instead of blaming porn–is uncomfortable, but way more productive.
People want more passion in long-term (and even some new) relationships.
The solution may involve saying goodbye to our youthful model of intense desire, and creating a relaxed, communicative model of sexual interest that is sustainable through the lifecycle.
Last week I gave a weekend retreat for a dozen couples in Chicago. They wanted bedroom tricks; instead, I focused on self-acceptance, relaxation, being present, and communication. Why is this more important?
What challenges will couples face in 2018 regarding sex, love, and intimacy? Dealing with infidelity, pornography, desire issues, and conflict management. What do these have in common?