“Sex addiction” treatment understands nothing about sex, lets one or both partners evade responsibility, and assumes “addicts” are out of control.
Its handling of infidelity, porn use, sex workers, “emotional affairs,” desire, fantasy, and masturbation damages people and their marriages.
Today is National Psychotherapy Day. Every year, it comes seven weeks after National Psychic Day (yes, really).
Psychotherapy involves a wonderful set of tools. Every year, skillful therapists save marriages, facilitate divorces, educate parents, ease trauma, and help people overcome depression or anxiety.
But one of American psychotherapy’s main weaknesses is in the area of sexuality. Most therapists…
Jonas and Marge have been married for 17 years.
This week they had sex for the first time in 10 years.
They had stopped when she found out he had been seeing prostitutes all over the country while he travelled for business. She was too angry and hurt to let him touch her.
Sex therapy often gets great results.
What are the principles of sexual and relationship satisfaction that successful patients learn? Here are six of them, along with stories of couples & individuals who…
Many of my patients feel powerless around sexuality.
In fact, psychological risk-taking is one of the greatest gifts sex has to offer.
Most of the judgements that we fear from others (“she’ll think I’m a pervert”) we actually fear from ourselves. Most of our fear about “failing” sexually is a response to arbitrary standards that we could actually break with impunity. And limiting sex to what’s “dignified” or “manly” or “feminist” or “anti-racist”…
Some people would rather be right than enjoy sex.
They demand that sex be a certain way, no matter how narrow or unrealistic—or pointless—that is.
Many people could improve their sex lives without their partner having to change at all. What else could you ask for?