Pressuring a partner to have sex will, over time, poison the relationship. Similarly, if someone acquiesces to sex they don’t want, over and over, that will poison the relationship, too.
Men should stop doing the first, and women should stop doing the second.
And by the way, no one “needs” sex a certain amount every week (or month or year). Some people WANT it much more frequently than they have it–but that’s NOT the same…
These days, the profession of psychology—mirroring American society—is quite focused on narratives of victimhood, exploitation, and trauma. It’s disconcerting to hear patients describe themselves—per some blogger or their previous therapist—as struggling with “PTSD” from an event or situation that simply reflects the most aggravating part of adult life.
That’s the reason to notice Monica Lewinsky’s latest public gig, a podcast. In it, she plans to whine (sorry, “explore”) about “reclaiming” the narrative of her becoming rich and famous by betraying her lover, who happened to be the President.
If society doesn’t have clear ideas about responsibility, agency, and manufactured victimhood…
Yes, our sexual rights are under attack in dreadful ways. But let’s be thankful for the sexual freedoms, technologies, and options we do have right now. I’ve chosen some that many people don’t take full advantage of—and I encourage you to do so.
Chances are, your therapist received almost no clinical training in sexuality–probably less than any other common human activity.
Western culture is full of ambivalence, fear, and misinformation about sex. So we shouldn’t be surprised if your therapist has absorbed a lot of that negativity—which probably wasn’t challenged during their training.
When you add in a strong dose of modern psychology’s political correctness, therapy customers need to be careful if their concerns are sexual. Here are examples…
A recent report says that when men & women have sex together, the men are more likely to climax than the women.
It bemoans this as The Orgasm Gap. But that’s the wrong way to measure people’s sexual experience.
For example, we could focus on…
Millions of couples argue about porn.
The arguments sound like they’re about porn, but they really aren’t.
The conflict almost invariably involves a woman who’s unhappy with a man’s porn-viewing, while the man defends himself or criticizes the woman’s unhappiness. Couples can argue about porn for hours, over months and years, and easily avoid talking about what’s really bothering them.
The arguments typically sound like this: “I don’t want you looking at porn because…