Life with COVID: we all want answers. I’ve been working on finding the right questions.
What are we learning now that we will forget when this is over?
Changing the Way People, Politics & the Media Look at Sex
Life with COVID: we all want answers. I’ve been working on finding the right questions.
What are we learning now that we will forget when this is over?
As both a sex therapist and marriage counselor, I have been talking to individuals and couples about infidelity for over thirty years.
People often impulsively reveal this to others–which is frequently a mistake.
If you’re in a couple this month, you’ve probably asked yourself at least once: Is this the person with whom I want to face the end of the world?
Whether your answer is a joyous “yes” or a resigned “I guess so,” let’s talk.
Every January I look back over the previous year’s cases. And while some issues come and go, one thing is consistent year after year: I always see a lot of couples in conflict about each other’s sexual desire.
People are more than “high desire” or “low desire,” but they–and professionals–tend to use these categories, even though they can complicate things.
I’m tired of erections. Well, not all erections.
I’m tired of the erections that people think are so meaningful when they don’t get them. As in, “I don’t get erections, so there’s something wrong with me.” Or “He doesn’t get erections, which means he doesn’t care for me.”
Don’t get me wrong, I’m sympathetic about people’s concerns. But…
He’s 20. He’s had sex with two different women so far: “It was OK,” he says, “But I didn’t feel confident, I wasn’t sure if they had an orgasm or if I’m doing everything right.”
He wants some advice right away—“Some coaching from someone who knows all about women and sex,” he says. Instead of…