Sexual Health

What Sex Therapy Can’t Do

Sex therapy, first developed by Masters & Johnson in the early 1960s, can be wonderful—life-changing, cost-effective, marriage- (and therefore family-) saving.

But we can’t do everything that people want or need. Here are some things I’m asked to do periodically, which I just don’t know how to do—and I doubt that my colleagues, can, either.

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The Pride Flag Dilemma

All kids deserve to feel accepted and safe at school.

When public schools promote Pride Month or fly the Pride flag next to the Stars & Stripes, they’re teaching kids that the best way to get adult attention–positive or negative–is to express childhood angst in the vocabulary of gender & orientation struggles.

Yes, Pride should mean acceptance of all kids. But kids who struggle with other issues—such as an alcoholic parent, a years-long bout of intense acne, early puberty, or guilt about masturbation–don’t get the same attention, aren’t perceived as cool, and don’t have nearly the same community or sense of identity.

Of course there are kids who struggle about gender

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Alcohol: Making Sex More Complicated

In America, sex and alcohol go together like peanut butter and jelly. Or a fish and a bicycle. Or desire and guilt.

Consciously or not, people combine alcohol and sex for four main reasons: to increase desire, disinhibit themselves or a partner, cope with pain, or manage anxiety.

Unfortunately, mixing alcohol and sex can have some very unwanted consequences. For starters…

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