Many people are having sex despite—or because of—COVID restrictions on the rest of our lives. And over 99% of the people having sex this weekend do NOT want to conceive.
Fortunately, there are many ways to enjoy sex without unintentionally conceiving.
Patients tell me they want sex to be “natural and spontaneous.” They want it to be easy and enjoyable, a source of pleasure, comfort, and connection.
And yet year after year, these same perfectly nice people construct sex so that it’s complicated, frustrating, and anxiety-provoking–because of their ideas about sex.
As both a sex therapist and marriage counselor, I have been talking to individuals and couples about infidelity for over thirty years.
People often impulsively reveal this to others–which is frequently a mistake.
Linda Tripp died a few days ago at age 70. I was going to ignore it, until I saw headlines everywhere about her being a “whistleblower.”
This is a terrible insult to actual whistleblowers–people who expose government wrongdoing at risk to their own careers or lives. Think Navy Captain Brett Crozier, who sacrificed his career after sounding the alarm about coronavirus on the aircraft carrier Theodore Roosevelt.
If you’re in a couple this month, you’ve probably asked yourself at least once: Is this the person with whom I want to face the end of the world?
Whether your answer is a joyous “yes” or a resigned “I guess so,” let’s talk.
Is anxiety increasing or decreasing your desire? Do you have enough contraception on hand? And with kids in the house, who’s having sex anyway?
Here are some thoughts about sexual aspects of our lives in a time of pandemic.