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The Pride Flag Dilemma

All kids deserve to feel accepted and safe at school.

When public schools promote Pride Month or fly the Pride flag next to the Stars & Stripes, they’re teaching kids that the best way to get adult attention–positive or negative–is to express childhood angst in the vocabulary of gender & orientation struggles.

Yes, Pride should mean acceptance of all kids. But kids who struggle with other issues—such as an alcoholic parent, a years-long bout of intense acne, early puberty, or guilt about masturbation–don’t get the same attention, aren’t perceived as cool, and don’t have nearly the same community or sense of identity.

Of course there are kids who struggle about gender

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Bull Durham—A Great Sex Movie Turns 35

Bull Durham, the 1988 movie starring Kevin Costner, Susan Sarandon, and Tim Robbins, is easily the best movie about baseball ever made. Yet you can love it without knowing a thing about the game.

That’s partly because it’s also one of the greatest sex movies ever made.

Here’s how Annie (Sarandon) introduces herself as she introduces the movie: “I’ve tried every religion, and I now worship at the church of baseball. There’s no guilt in baseball, and it’s never boring—which makes it like sex. There’s never been a ballplayer who’s slept with me who didn’t have the best year of his career.”

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