Sexual Intelligence Blog

Father’s Day Gift: Sex Education Help

You’re a good dad, you care about your kids and want the best for them. “The best” includes the information and values they need to develop healthy sexuality. When parents ask me “at what age should I start talking to my kids about sex?” I gently reply, “If you haven’t started yet, you’re behind schedule—no matter what age they are.” Sexuality education starts with the right words for body parts (as opposed to “woo-woo” or “lady bits”) while you’re bathing your baby in the sink. It continues when you and your partner are physically affectionate in front of your child.…

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Alabama & Sex Offenders: Revenge, Not Child Safety

A new Alabama law requires that felons convicted of having sex with children and now getting out on parole take drugs that will chemically castrate them. If they refuse they can be kept in prison—even if they have absolutely no sexual interest in children.

This law satisfies the bloodlust of Alabamians, but will NOT make their children safer.

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Romance & Spontaneity—Not Always the Best Sexual Goals

Joel and Marissa are very nice people. They care for each other and plan to spend their lives together. Each of them has very little sexual experience, however, and they’re having trouble getting into any sort of intimate rhythm together.

They’ve come to me while grappling with a perfect storm: very little sexual experience, very little knowledge about sex and bodies, and a lot of anxiety about sexual activity and competence. This would be enough to make sex difficult for anyone.

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