Healthcare professionals can do a great job of answering our questions about sex–if we ask them.
Here are some examples of what we should ask our doctor, nurse, or physical therapist–and what we should tell them about our sexuality if they don’t ask.
Some people would rather be right than enjoy sex.
They demand that sex be a certain way, no matter how narrow or unrealistic—or pointless—that is.
Many people could improve their sex lives without their partner having to change at all. What else could you ask for?
Want to enjoy sex more, or rev up your desire?
Instead of new positions, or toys, techniques, or a new kink, identify and stop doing things that undermine your sexuality–like these.
I was on a podcast yesterday when the interviewer (call her Claire) said something like “Well, of course everyone wants to feel connected during sex.”
“No,” I replied. “Well, no grownup really wants sex to be like, just two bodies hammering away at each other.” Again I disagreed: “Sometimes grownups do,” I said.
She was both exasperated and curious. “Well, if connection isn’t the universal thing people want from sex, what is?” “There isn’t a universal thing that everyone wants from sex,” I said. She…