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California Senate Actually Protects Our Sexuality—Twice

A little-known government body—the California Senate Committee on Public Safety— got it right twice last week. They actually enhanced the safety of Californians by defeating two bills that had sailed through the state Assembly without a single dissent. The first, AB1067, required “blinders” on store displays featuring magazines with “harmful matter” on the cover. The second, AB1475, mandated computer repair technicians to report “pornographic images of children” they find while fixing a machine. Both are examples of good intentions (protecting young people from inappropriate sexual experiences) mixed with hysteria (the belief that those potential experiences are terribly common, and always…

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Fox & CBS Think Condoms Are About Death, Not Pleasure

You’ve probably heard about the new ad for Trojan condoms. It’s actually pretty clever, showing young guys in a dance club coming on to women. The guys are depicted as actual pigs (the special effects are cool), and the women are understandably turned off. Then a guy/pig goes to the men’s room, gets a condom from a vending machine, and is transformed into a good-looking Mr. Right (or at least Mr. Right for Tonight), who gets plenty of smiles from the ladies. The good news: the ad will run on ABC, NBC, MTV, Comedy Central, and seven other cable networks.…

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“Knocked Up?” No Thanks

So this fabulous woman—gorgeous, intelligent, great job, great future—gets drunk, sleeps with this loser without contraception, gets pregnant, drags the no-job, no-future stranger into a relationship, and has the baby. Everyone says the movie is funny. ‘Scuse me, I don’t care. I know that comedies are by nature ridiculous—think Duck Soup, Airplane, and anything Adam Sandler touches. But Knocked Up validates the dangerous idea that unintended pregnancy is a matter of bad luck. Worse, it describes a world in which abortion literally does not exist—it’s called “the A word,” which “rhymes with smashmortion.” You’d never know that 1.3 million Americans…

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Obituary: Stan Dale, Sexual Pioneer

Stan Dale, founder of the Human Awareness Institute and leader of hundreds of sexuality/intimacy workshops, died last week at age 78. I didn’t take to Stan when we first met 17 years ago. He was just too damned happy. And way too loving, considering we barely knew each other. But he was relentless. He had decided we were going to be friends, not just colleagues. Eventually, he melted my heart. That was the first thing I learned about Stan: the guy was dangerous. And fierce. Stan sometimes said we were like two sides of a coin—me, educating people out there…

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Teens As A Sexually-Repressed Minority

What do you call it when the government singles out a group and denies them: * information * health care services * the right to consensual sexual activity Sounds like discrimination, doesn’t it? In fact, American teenagers are a sexually repressed minority. In half of America’s schools, teachers are not allowed to answer simple questions about the clitoris or anal sex. Teens are discouraged from using condoms through a combination of government lies and government-funded lies (see faith-based funding of socials services). In many states, teens are prevented from getting healthcare, including abortions. And worst of all, teens are jailed…

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“F-Word” Indecency

“F-word.” “F— you.” Do you know what these expressions mean? Of course you do. Everyone over the age of 10 does. And yet the American mass media continue to use these infantile symbols when they want to refer to someone using the word fuck. U.S. News & World Report is the latest grownup magazine to coyly play it both ways. In this week’s article on how John McCain’s “sharp tongue could affect the [presidential] race,” they noted he was reported telling Senator John Cornyn “F— you.” Later in the story, they reminded us that three years ago, Vice-President Cheney “famously…

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