Old therapy joke:
Q: What’s the difference between defense mechanisms and sex? A: You can go a whole day without sex.
Actually, we can go without sex for a lot longer than that. But you wouldn’t know it from listening to some of my patients. Or their partners.
It generally sounds like this: “So I just need a lot of sex. I can’t help it, that’s just how I am—I need a lot of sex, preferably every day.”
Trans activists have savaged Scarlett Johansson for playing a trans person in an upcoming film. This almost guarantees the film won’t get made–a tragedy for trans people. What star in their right mind will now make such a movie?
Steam-cleaning your vagina is the latest way someone’s getting rich by making women feel bad about their sexual bodies. Men are under that kind of pressure, too–and we should all resist it.
As a sex therapist, I work with couples every week in which one partner wants more sex than the other.
When it’s a small disparity people generally work it out. But when one person wants sex twice a week and other wants it twice a year, many couples simply can’t cope. Ideally, couples would struggle over this together: what are WE going to do about OUR problem?
What’s more common, unfortunately, is that each partner sees themselves as having the primary pain. And each person looks at the other and says what are YOU going to do about MY suffering that YOU’VE created?
Sex robots that can be programmed to simulate kids–dangerous to real kids? Congress expresses disgust with our sexual imagination by talking about danger.
The Supreme Court rules that a baker does not have to custom-make a cake for a gay wedding. There’s something fundamentally good about this decision–it protects free artistic expression.
The real Constitutional problem is that religious beliefs are considered so precious that they get special rights.