Sexual Intelligence Blog

Alcohol: Making Sex More Complicated

In America, sex and alcohol go together like peanut butter and jelly. Or a fish and a bicycle. Or desire and guilt.

Consciously or not, people combine alcohol and sex for four main reasons: to increase desire, disinhibit themselves or a partner, cope with pain, or manage anxiety.

Unfortunately, mixing alcohol and sex can have some very unwanted consequences. For starters…

Continue Reading
0 Comments

Myths About Infidelity

Every single week for the last 42 years I have spoken with one or more clients who have cheated or been cheated on.

Survey data regarding cheating keeps changing as social definitions of cheating evolve. And the invention of cars, telephones, and the internet—not to mention mixed-gender schools and workplaces—have multiplied people’s opportunities for a broader range of physical and emotional relationships.

I do believe I’ve heard every possible reason for infidelity, and…

Continue Reading
0 Comments

The Primary Sexual Concerns of Most People

  With all the current media attention to drag queens, pronouns, polyamory, and a few felons with penises demanding to be jailed in women’s cellblocks, it’s easy to forget that these aren’t the central concerns of most people.

While issues like these can be fascinating (and legitimately important to a very small number of people), most people’s sexual concerns are far more pedestrian.
It’s easy to forget that the central sexual concerns of most people do NOT involve orientation or identity.

Continue Reading
0 Comments