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“Knocked Up?” No Thanks

So this fabulous woman—gorgeous, intelligent, great job, great future—gets drunk, sleeps with this loser without contraception, gets pregnant, drags the no-job, no-future stranger into a relationship, and has the baby. Everyone says the movie is funny. ‘Scuse me, I don’t care. I know that comedies are by nature ridiculous—think Duck Soup, Airplane, and anything Adam Sandler touches. But Knocked Up validates the dangerous idea that unintended pregnancy is a matter of bad luck. Worse, it describes a world in which abortion literally does not exist—it’s called “the A word,” which “rhymes with smashmortion.” You’d never know that 1.3 million Americans…

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Obituary: Stan Dale, Sexual Pioneer

Stan Dale, founder of the Human Awareness Institute and leader of hundreds of sexuality/intimacy workshops, died last week at age 78. I didn’t take to Stan when we first met 17 years ago. He was just too damned happy. And way too loving, considering we barely knew each other. But he was relentless. He had decided we were going to be friends, not just colleagues. Eventually, he melted my heart. That was the first thing I learned about Stan: the guy was dangerous. And fierce. Stan sometimes said we were like two sides of a coin—me, educating people out there…

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Teens As A Sexually-Repressed Minority

What do you call it when the government singles out a group and denies them: * information * health care services * the right to consensual sexual activity Sounds like discrimination, doesn’t it? In fact, American teenagers are a sexually repressed minority. In half of America’s schools, teachers are not allowed to answer simple questions about the clitoris or anal sex. Teens are discouraged from using condoms through a combination of government lies and government-funded lies (see faith-based funding of socials services). In many states, teens are prevented from getting healthcare, including abortions. And worst of all, teens are jailed…

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“F-Word” Indecency

“F-word.” “F— you.” Do you know what these expressions mean? Of course you do. Everyone over the age of 10 does. And yet the American mass media continue to use these infantile symbols when they want to refer to someone using the word fuck. U.S. News & World Report is the latest grownup magazine to coyly play it both ways. In this week’s article on how John McCain’s “sharp tongue could affect the [presidential] race,” they noted he was reported telling Senator John Cornyn “F— you.” Later in the story, they reminded us that three years ago, Vice-President Cheney “famously…

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“Morality in Media” Gets Airsick

Ever been on an airplane and felt the movie was too sexy? Me neither. And yet Morality in Media, those sex-obsessed people who want to limit your choices so that they feel more comfortable, are championing the cause of a single individual who complained about this. A guy on a Delta flight complained that “Rome” wasn’t edited enough for him or anyone else, and now MiM has found their shock-du-jour. Delta has promised to edit any sexy scenes down to three seconds or less, but this merely inflames MiM even more. Says MiM president Robert Peters, “To put that in…

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A Hate-Filled Man Dies

One doesn’t want to take cheap shots at someone who can’t defend himself. Being dead, Jerry Falwell can’t. But his work, unfortunately, will live on, so it’s fair game for criticism. What exactly was Jerry Falwell’s work? Frightening people about the threat of rampaging sexuality in their communities. Making people feel guilty about the sexual impulses in their hearts. Lying—yes, lying—about what others said, did, felt, desired. A man of the world, conversant with kings and princes, Falwell knew better. But his power was exactly as large as the fear and anger of those he inspired, and so he did…

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