Masturbation is one of life’s miracles.
With just a small investment of time and attention, it can provide pleasure (& comfort, autonomy, exploration, & better sleep) on demand.
So what can go wrong?
Is non-monogamy a viable option? Of course—but not for everyone. It is NOT a good way to fix a broken relationship. And it takes lots of thoughtful communication.
And is poly really a sexual orientation?
Sex is usually about more than just sex.
So to improve our sex lives, it’s often necessary to explore and discuss non-sexual things.
Here are examples of patients who wondered “Why are we talking about this instead of sex?” Our successful therapy showed them why.
Words express ideas, so words are important. Editing the words of our activist heroes so they fit better with today’s political correctness is dishonest. And words like “transphobic” can be used to attack allies & well-meaning people; they educate no one, persuade no one, and may demand an ideological purity that blocks the progress of social justice.
Dr. Debby Herbenick’s latest research from the Kinsey Institute shows that an astounding number of young people are engaged in choking (actually, strangling) during sex.
Are they really enjoying it—or has sex become more about power than about pleasure and connection?
I trust most children to accurately know if they’re hungry, cold, or need a bathroom. I don’t trust children to accurately know if they require medicine, should take math class, or need to lose weight.
Do you?
I trust children to know if they feel uncomfortable, unhappy, lonely, isolated, or different. I don’t trust children to know the best ways to resolve those feelings (it’s our job to teach them). And the more extreme their suggestions are, the less we should trust them.