I presented a training webinar to therapists last Friday. The title was Infidelity: After An Affair, Who Owns the Relationship?
I offered some ideas that are contrary to much conventional wisdom in the therapy field, involving power dynamics, assumptions about monogamy, and if/when to trust someone after they have cheated.
The “porn addiction” movement claims that one of pornography’s biggest problems is the way it disrespects women. But the movement itself is what’s really disrespectful to women–claiming they are hysterical creatures so overwhelmed by the porn issue that they can’t negotiate like adults.
What challenges will couples face in 2018 regarding sex, love, and intimacy? Dealing with infidelity, pornography, desire issues, and conflict management. What do these have in common?
The Metropolitan Museum of Art is now displaying a painting some people don’t like. I’m tired of censors obsessively seeing sex everywhere they look. They try to protect themselves–and the world–by getting rid of anything they can interpret as erotic.
Millions of Americans have a bizarre attitude toward pregnancy: “If it happens, it happens.”
I do understand people who want a child. I also understand people who don’t want a child. I even understand people who definitely want a baby someday, but not now. This is all true regardless of whether people already have kids.
Whether or not to have a baby is the single biggest decision an adult can make. It affects you—male or female—during pregnancy, for 18 years after that, and actually, for most people, until they die. It affects your primary relationship, your sex life, your job/career, your finances, where you live, and who your friends are.
In America, sex is always in the news. (Note: it’s actually not like that in most other countries.)
That news provides a chance for sincere, well-informed people to disagree. But these days, unfortunately, people are using the day’s sex news more as a chance to choose up sides—to define what your opinion means about you and all your other opinions.
~ “I disagree” has been replaced by “You’re misogynist”…