Sex addiction is a convenient explanation for the destructive behavior of people driven mad by shame and Christian demands for sexual purity.
But the problem is shame, not sex. Treating shame, sexual ignorance, and relationship problems can actually cure people–so they don’t have to be addicts in recovery for the rest of their lives.
Many sex questions are a plea for reassurance, or a wish to be normal.
But it can be better to ask about a question’s meaning than to answer it.
Here are some common questions about sex that I rarely answer directly, and examples of how I respond instead.
The Gallup Poll just released their latest figures on Americans’ sexual orientation.
Almost 6% of Americans identify as LGBT. But what does that mean? Is sexual orientation about behavior or identity? Does it matter?
The words & pictures pornographers use may offend you, but they protect your right to express yourself in ways that offend others.
“Why do MY rights have to be defended by disgusting people saying ugly things?”
Well, that’s how it works. No one wants to stop you from posting cat videos. No one…
Want to enjoy sex more, or rev up your desire?
Instead of new positions, or toys, techniques, or a new kink, identify and stop doing things that undermine your sexuality–like these.
Most therapists get almost no training in sexuality. This means they may not know more about sex than you do, and may not know how to talk about it.
Their questions about sex are often the same as yours. Here’s how I change the questions before answering them.