Last week I gave a weekend retreat for a dozen couples in Chicago. They wanted bedroom tricks; instead, I focused on self-acceptance, relaxation, being present, and communication. Why is this more important?
Way back in 2004 there was Superbowl XXXVIII. The halftime show featured a Janet Jackson-Justin Timberlake duet. Timberlake wore what guys wear in Denny’s, and Jackson wore a black leather bustier over a red lace undergarment.
They closed their song with Timberlake dramatically pulling off the bustier cup covering Jackson’s right breast. For exactly one-half second (I am NOT making this up), half the planet saw her nipple. How do you suppose this story will be re-told in a post-Harvey Weinstein world?
I presented a training webinar to therapists last Friday. The title was Infidelity: After An Affair, Who Owns the Relationship?
I offered some ideas that are contrary to much conventional wisdom in the therapy field, involving power dynamics, assumptions about monogamy, and if/when to trust someone after they have cheated.
The “porn addiction” movement claims that one of pornography’s biggest problems is the way it disrespects women. But the movement itself is what’s really disrespectful to women–claiming they are hysterical creatures so overwhelmed by the porn issue that they can’t negotiate like adults.
What challenges will couples face in 2018 regarding sex, love, and intimacy? Dealing with infidelity, pornography, desire issues, and conflict management. What do these have in common?
The Metropolitan Museum of Art is now displaying a painting some people don’t like. I’m tired of censors obsessively seeing sex everywhere they look. They try to protect themselves–and the world–by getting rid of anything they can interpret as erotic.