After speaking on pornography in Toronto and Alberta, I’ve just returned from lecturing on intimacy in Vancouver, my third Canadian city this year.
As always, the British Columbia Psychological Association was gracious and well-organized. About half of those in attendance had heard me speak there last year on infidelity and cybersex,
Every year, the White Ribbon Against Pornography (WRAP) week mobilizes America’s community leaders, religious figures, and politicians. Their goal is to spread lies and hysteria about the dangers of adult pornography, and its alleged connections with sex trafficking, domestic violence, and child exploitation.
I have written about this cynical, shameful project many times: (https://goo.gl/fYS2KE; https://goo.gl/4juJRQ; https://goo.gl/HHkHKo). This year…
In just 72 hours, the sun will set and young kids will start cruising up and down my street. Costumed, faces painted, they’ll have one thing on their Halloween minds—sugar.
However, their parents are supposed to be thinking about predators, who supposedly lurk behind every door, and inside every clown costume.
I’m tired of erections. Well, not all erections.
I’m tired of the erections that people think are so meaningful when they don’t get them. As in, “I don’t get erections, so there’s something wrong with me.” Or “He doesn’t get erections, which means he doesn’t care for me.”
Don’t get me wrong, I’m sympathetic about people’s concerns. But…
I was on a podcast yesterday when the interviewer (call her Claire) said something like “Well, of course everyone wants to feel connected during sex.”
“No,” I replied. “Well, no grownup really wants sex to be like, just two bodies hammering away at each other.” Again I disagreed: “Sometimes grownups do,” I said.
She was both exasperated and curious. “Well, if connection isn’t the universal thing people want from sex, what is?” “There isn’t a universal thing that everyone wants from sex,” I said. She…
We can all admire Canada’s culture regarding sexuality. It’s not perfect, but here are just a few features that put American sexual culture to shame.
For example, public bathrooms: