For a lot of people these days, sexual identity seems to be more about identity than about sexuality. That is, people are adapting or defining their sexual identity based on what group they want to affiliate with, or what that identity tells them about themselves, rather than simply enjoying what they enjoy.
Vanilla sex is what most people do. That doesn’t mean it’s “normal,” just that it’s really common. Some people love it, while others find it unsatisfying. Either way, it’s still what most people do.
Is watching porn a form of infidelity?
This is not a helpful question. Every time I hear it in session, in fact, I think it’s the wrong question. But women and men keep asking it, so let me answer it here.
The simple answer is, it all depends on how you define infidelity.
The FDA has approved Vyleesi, which supposedly increases sexual desire in women.
It won’t work, because low desire in most women is not a biological problem to be fixed.
You’re a good dad, you care about your kids and want the best for them. “The best” includes the information and values they need to develop healthy sexuality.
When parents ask me “at what age should I start talking to my kids about sex?” I gently reply, “If you haven’t started yet, you’re behind schedule—no matter what age they are.”
A new Alabama law requires that felons convicted of having sex with children and now getting out on parole take drugs that will chemically castrate them. If they refuse they can be kept in prison—even if they have absolutely no sexual interest in children.
This law satisfies the bloodlust of Alabamians, but will NOT make their children safer.