Many journalists contacted me this week, asking “Why would someone enjoy unconventional sex, and then condemn even the slightest variation in others’ sex lives?”
The answer is: Falwell is Everyone, struggling with the same thing most of us struggle with. But while most of us struggle in private, his politics make his struggle public.
Jerry Falwell, Jr, the president of ultra-Christian Liberty University gleefully photographed himself cavorting (trousers unzipped, drink in hand) on a yacht with a woman to whom he isn’t married.
The only reason to care about this is that Liberty University has a strict code of conduct for students that prohibits non-marital sex and consuming any media with erotic content or nudity.
Hypocritical Christian leaders like Falwell give sex a bad name.
When the media cover up what Congresswoman AOC actually said with asterisks and euphemisms, it’s bad for America.
Compare the censored version of her moment with the actual video.
On this most un-free COVID-stained July 4th, I want to caution you about another important way in which we are not free: regarding our sexual fantasies.
You are NOT free to fantasize about sex that is illegal. If you do, and you’re caught, you will have to prove you do not actually want to do those things. This is almost impossible. In fact, in my experience as an expert witness in courtrooms across America, I’ve rarely seen anyone do it successfully.
What Is kinky sex? Does It matter?
There’s actually no exact definition of kink, so feel free to say that what you do is or isn’t kinky.
Your sexuality is an experience, not a category. Shakespeare had it right—a rose smells the same no matter what you call it.
But you might be more willing to smell something if I told you it was a flower rather than a skunk. And so some people stay away from exploring sexual behaviors they might enjoy just because they think the activities are “kinky”—“and,” they emphasize, “I’m not a kinky person.”
Life with COVID: we all want answers. I’ve been working on finding the right questions.
What are we learning now that we will forget when this is over?