Female orgasm

Q: I have never been able to completely reach orgasm from penetration alone. It feels great, but it takes direct stimulation of my clitoris for me to come. I read that this is not unusual, but my boyfriend says every other woman he’s been with reaches orgasm from intercourse alone. Is that true?

Dr. Klein: The short answer is, most women do not climax without direct stimulation of the clitoris by a hand, mouth, vibrator, or other object. The more interesting answer is, you know how to enjoy sex. Why are you letting your boyfriend compare you to anyone else? And why do their experiences matter one bit?


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