Shared masturbation

Q: My wife will not masturbate in front of me. How can I convince her that this will turn her on, as well as me?

Dr. Klein: Maybe it won’t turn her on. If she thought she’d enjoy it, she’d probably do it. As for your turn-on, well, you can’t have everything. In general, people don’t like to be talked into sexual activities. That said, you can try the following:

  • touch yourself in front of her even if she won’t do it;
  • don’t call it masturbating, call it touching herself;
  • let her know that if she does this, you’ll learn how to please her better.


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