Sleepy sex

Q: My boyfriend and I would like to try how it feels to sleep with his dick still inside me (after sex). Are there any health risks to this? Should we start with a dildo first?

Dr. Klein: Sleeping with a penis inside the vagina poses no health risks to either partner. However, his penis will not stay hard all night; when it gets soft, it will certainly slip out. It’s a lovely idea, though, and if you both like it, you can certainly fall asleep that way. Sleeping with a dildo inside is a different story. Because it does stay hard and it is an artificial body, it isn’t a good idea.


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