Unwanted sexual fluids

Q: My partner and I do not have intercourse, although we do have ways to pleasure one another. The problem is that when he uses his fingers to thrust into me, I leak fluid. Is this normal?

Dr. Klein: Sex involves lots of fluids, none of them harmful. If you enjoy the experience of your partner’s fingers, there’s nothing wrong with whatever comes flowing out. It probably means you’re excited! Some women are dry during sex, some are damp, and others gush. There’s no “normal” here–just let the good times (and your juices) roll.


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