Watching his masturbation

Q: Is it totally normal for me to enjoy watching my boyfriend masturbate? I love when he ejaculates on me (usually my bare stomach), but I’m feeling kind of weird about it.

Dr. Klein: It’s nice that you feel so comfortable with your mate’s sexuality. But the question isn’t, “is this normal?” The issue is, “does it work for both of you? Are you being honest and responsible about what you’re doing?” If the answers are ‘yes,’ you can accept it without thinking about what other people do, or worrying that someone else would think it’s gross.


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