As a sex therapist, I hear a lot about how sex doesn’t work, how complicated it is, and how often it simply isn’t worth the trouble. Of course, I’m sympathetic.
But my job is to notice exactly how people create the sex that frustrates them. It doesn’t take much: disliking your body; not trusting your partner; feeling guilty about what you want or don’t want; anxiety about, well, anything.
Those are the issues I help individuals identify and resolve. After that, people often enjoy sex much more.
Frequently, though, sexual difficulties are maintained by two partners together.