It’s National Orgasm Day! Here are some fun facts about orgasm, including the first modern description of female climax; vaginal vs clitoral orgasms; “squirting” (and its cousins); why men get “blue balls” and women get “blue lips”; and who fakes orgasms.
It’s Valentine’s Day, and so many people are thinking about sex.
Most people won’t do it tonight (there’s no day of the year when “most people” have sex), but in case you do, here are some tips you probably won’t read elsewhere. In fact, they’ll contradict some of the most popular advice.
BTW, no equipment or weight loss is needed for any of these.
As a sex therapist, I hear a lot about how sex doesn’t work, how complicated it is, and how often it simply isn’t worth the trouble. Of course, I’m sympathetic.
But my job is to notice exactly how people create the sex that frustrates them. It doesn’t take much: disliking your body; not trusting your partner; feeling guilty about what you want or don’t want; anxiety about, well, anything.
Those are the issues I help individuals identify and resolve. After that, people often enjoy sex much more.
Frequently, though, sexual difficulties are maintained by two partners together.
Shere Hite, one of history’s most influential sexologists, died this week at age 77.
Hite published her revolutionary books of interviews in 1976 (on female sexuality) and 1981 (on male sexuality). The bombshell results of her interviews with some 10,000 Americans included:
At age 66, Louis doesn’t orgasm every time he has sex. He doesn’t mind, but it’s driving his girlfriend crazy.
Every week, people tell me exactly how they make sex way too complicated, and therefore difficult or impossible to enjoy. Here are some ways they do that.
I wish I could just say “Stop making sex more complicated than necessary…”