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What is NOT a porn problem?

by Dr. Marty Klein on December 22, 2018·Pornography & Porn Addiction, Sexual Intelligence Blog

Whenever I write or lecture about pornography, some wives and girlfriends eagerly respond with stories that supposedly prove how damaging pornography is. Examples include:~ He tells me I should look or act more like a porn star ~ He leaves porn around the house where the kids can find it ~ He insists on sexual activities with me that I don’t want ~ He won’t have sex with me anymore ~ He watches porn and then hits me ~ He’ll only have sex with me if we look at porn together ~ He ignores me if he doesn’t get enough…

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Caught Cheating? 8 Ways to Make Things WORSE

by Dr. Marty Klein on November 2, 2018·Sex Therapist's Couch, Sexual Intelligence Blog

Extramarital affairs? Men and women marry, so men and women cheat. Sometimes it’s once, with no emotional attachment. Sometimes it’s years with a beloved in the next town—virtually a second husband or wife.

And sometimes the whole thing blows up. When it does, some Cheaters actually makes things worse.

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Blaming porn for bad behavior—and avoiding the truth

by Dr. Marty Klein on May 3, 2018·Making Sex Better, Pornography & Porn Addiction, Sexual Intelligence Blog

Blaming porn for what’s wrong with our sex lives is easy. But when men behave like jerks in bed, there’s are always reasons. Talking about them–instead of blaming porn–is uncomfortable, but way more productive.

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Test-Driving Viagra (And Other Things) First

by Dr. Marty Klein on February 4, 2017·Making Sex Better, Sexual Intelligence Blog

As I’ve said before, I think people expect too much from erection drugs. If you’re chronically angry with your wife, you’ll still be angry after you take Viagra—and almost certainly won’t get an erection.

However, when men say they plan to start using Viagra, I encourage them to test-drive it alone first. That is…

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More Sexual Curiosity, Please

by Dr. Marty Klein on April 24, 2016·Sexual Health, Sexual Intelligence Blog

As a sex therapist for over 30 years, one of the most common goals people have come in with is “I want to be a better lover.” Of course, different people mean different things by that. These range from “I want my partner to enjoy sex more;” to “I want to compete more effectively with other would-be lovers (real or imagined);” to “I want to enjoy sex more.” Some of these people are highly experienced, while others are beginners. Most people who “want to be better lovers” are after some new technique, the latest sex toy, or a position they…

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