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Want to Increase Your (or Their) Libido?

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Every week, people come for therapy with desire issues. Someone wants higher libido. Someone else wants their partner to have a higher libido.

My answer is frequently…let’s talk about something else. Important issues might include:
~ Power dynamics
~ Body image
~ Self-esteem
~ Conflict management
~ Old wounds—the individual’s, the partner’s, or the couple’s
~ Religion
~ Alcohol and drugs
~ Aging, health, chronic pain, menopause, contraception

Sometimes the problem is easy to…

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Pressuring Women For Sex—Does It Work?

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Pressuring a partner to have sex will, over time, poison the relationship. Similarly, if someone acquiesces to sex they don’t want, over and over, that will poison the relationship, too.

Men should stop doing the first, and women should stop doing the second.

And by the way, no one “needs” sex a certain amount every week (or month or year). Some people WANT it much more frequently than they have it–but that’s NOT the same…

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Aphrodisiac? For What?

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According to The New York Times, the Chinese are buying up the world’s supply of maca, an exotic root grown in the Andes. Their demand has driven the wholesale price of maca powder from $4 per pound to $20 per pound. Soon the indigenous Indians won’t be able to afford it as a nutritional staple. Why? Along with the horn of the rhino (now practically extinct), the penis of the tiger (now practically extinct), and the fin of the shark (heading toward extinction), maca is believed to be an aphrodisiac. That’s men for you: searching, century after century, for “aphrodisiacs.”…

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