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Porn Didn’t Destroy This Marriage—Her PornPhobia Could

What kind of a woman would destroy a perfectly good marriage (and great sex life) because her husband looks at porn?

There’s too, too many of them. One of those hubbies came to see me last week.

OK, he lied about watching. Not cool to lie.

But why would a grownup lie? The reason isn’t that complicated—he…

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Why Do Men Pay For Handjobs?

Totally by coincidence, two different guys called me for therapy this week with similar issues. One was regularly going to massage parlors for “happy endings,” and the other was paying young men he met on Grindr for quickies.

They each thought their behavior was wrong, and both felt ashamed. The first guy, Pedro, wanted to stop. The second guy, Chang, didn’t really want to stop, but thought he “should.”

Both guys are married. Both guys have high-paying, pressure-filled jobs. Both guys have trouble talking about sex. So they’ve each arranged to have sexual encounters without any talking.

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Another Marriage Destroyed By “Sex Addiction” Treatment

“Sex addiction” treatment understands nothing about sex, lets one or both partners evade responsibility, and assumes “addicts” are out of control.

Its handling of infidelity, porn use, sex workers, “emotional affairs,” desire, fantasy, and masturbation damages people and their marriages.

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Mental Health, Masturbation, & the Church

The Southern Baptist Convention has finally released a report detailing the decades-long child sexual abuse by its clergy.

Of course, this hands-on abuse is horrific. But for more children have been damaged by the church’s explicit teaching that masturbation and children’s sexuality is sinful. This form of child abuse goes on every day in every orthodox religious institution–in plain sight.

Why don’t medical & psychological professionals speak out about this? Why don’t the rest of us?

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