At age 66, Louis doesn’t orgasm every time he has sex. He doesn’t mind, but it’s driving his girlfriend crazy.
Changing the Way People, Politics & the Media Look at Sex
At age 66, Louis doesn’t orgasm every time he has sex. He doesn’t mind, but it’s driving his girlfriend crazy.
A wide range of men & women seek treatment with me because they are deeply ashamed of various aspects of their sexuality.
Almost all Silicon Valley engineers are men. Some of them have sex. Some want to but don’t. Some have questions about it. Some are perfectly content without it. They come to me for formulas about women and sex.
The New York Times Magazine has a great opinion piece this week about how “natural” doesn’t have a specific legal meaning. We now live in a world in which “natural Cheetos” and “100% all-natural chicken nuggets” are for sale. The anti-vaccination nuts deride medicines that are “unnatural,” forgetting that the goal of all medicine is to defeat nature. Anti-gay folks talk about “natural [i.e., heterosexual] marriage,” as if marriage isn’t an artificial institution like baseball—and, like baseball, is played differently in different places and subject to periodic rule changes (insert favorite rant about the Designated Hitter or former laws against…
I know you really want to know. And I know how hard it is to find out. We search the web, we look at porn, we read self-help books and listen to podcasts. If we’re bold we ask our best friend. Almost everyone wants to know what sex is like for other people. Or to put it another way, what is sexually normal? How often, how many minutes, how many orgasms, how many inches, how many partners, how much, where, when? And how? I’ve spent decades not answering the “normal” question—from patients, the media, from my readers, radio listeners, lecture…