It’s National Orgasm Day! Here are some fun facts about orgasm, including the first modern description of female climax; vaginal vs clitoral orgasms; “squirting” (and its cousins); why men get “blue balls” and women get “blue lips”; and who fakes orgasms.
I write books about sex and relationships. Too long for some people, I also write articles about sex and relationships. Too long for some people, I now post about sex and relationships on Instagram.
Interested in infidelity, desire, empathy, porn, or orgasm? Here are some of my favorite posts, each with a bit of explanation.
Many people think performance anxiety around sex is inevitable. But the reasons can be understood, and the anxiety changed–so that people can enjoy a broader range of sexual experiences, free from the fear of disappointment and self-criticism.
In a recent national study, more than half the female respondents reported faking an orgasm at least once. A quarter of male respondents said that they had, too.
We know why people fake orgasms…
And we know how most people can orgasm more reliably…
But do remember: If you think orgasm is the best part of sex, you’re missing the best part of sex.
A recent report says that when men & women have sex together, the men are more likely to climax than the women.
It bemoans this as The Orgasm Gap. But that’s the wrong way to measure people’s sexual experience.
For example, we could focus on…
It’s Valentine’s Day, and so many people are thinking about sex.
Most people won’t do it tonight (there’s no day of the year when “most people” have sex), but in case you do, here are some tips you probably won’t read elsewhere. In fact, they’ll contradict some of the most popular advice.
BTW, no equipment or weight loss is needed for any of these.