I write books about sex and relationships. Too long for some people, I also write articles about sex and relationships. Too long for some people, I now post about sex and relationships on Instagram.
Interested in infidelity, desire, empathy, porn, or orgasm? Here are some of my favorite posts, each with a bit of explanation.
Chances are, your therapist received almost no clinical training in sexuality–probably less than any other common human activity.
Western culture is full of ambivalence, fear, and misinformation about sex. So we shouldn’t be surprised if your therapist has absorbed a lot of that negativity—which probably wasn’t challenged during their training.
When you add in a strong dose of modern psychology’s political correctness, therapy customers need to be careful if their concerns are sexual. Here are examples…
No-Nut November discourages men from masturbating, touting dangerous myths about its benefits.
This has metastasized into NoFap, a million-man movement of violent conspiracy theories (porn=Jews), racist ideology, & misogyny.
No-Nut November promotes male abstinence from masturbation, sex and ejaculation. About a million young men are involved in this practice.
While it sounds like a bizarre joke (and indeed, was the theme of five very funny episodes of Seinfeld), it’s seriously important for several reasons:
Dr. Debby Herbenick’s latest research from the Kinsey Institute shows that an astounding number of young people are engaged in choking (actually, strangling) during sex.
Are they really enjoying it—or has sex become more about power than about pleasure and connection?
People are injecting politics into their relationships in ways that undermine them, interfering with empathy and communication.
Too many people perceive and talk about political forces instead of discussing personal characteristics or feelings. This doesn’t educate others or promote intimacy.