Last week I gave a weekend retreat for a dozen couples in Chicago. They wanted bedroom tricks; instead, I focused on self-acceptance, relaxation, being present, and communication. Why is this more important?
While a small amount of the world’s sex advice is helpful, most of it isn’t. Here are some popular sex tools that you probably don’t need.
People pay a lot of money to go to sex therapy. And people spend a lot of time reading self-help books, blogs, and magazine articles, not to mention watching YouTube videos. It’s all to find out one or more of the following about sexuality: * If they’re normal * If their partner is normal * How to get their body to do what they want it to * How to get their partner’s body to do what they want it to * What their partner wants in bed * How to tell their partner what they want in bed *…
Most therapists don’t learn very much about sex in the real world. And most people shopping for a therapist don’t know that.
Two of my upcoming lectures involve childhood sexuality. In March I’m speaking to a group of Catholic high school parents, and in April I’ll be training a few hundred family therapists in Arizona.
Not to be overly sentimental, but…
Today was World Contraception Day. Sponsored by organizations from most parts of the globe, its goal is straightforward: to create a world in which every pregnancy is wanted. So simple. So life-affirming and life-enhancing. Such a dramatic, proven program for reducing poverty and domestic violence. Who could be against such a thing? Unfortunately, way too many people: * Religious adherents who think their god is against it; * People who don’t want women to have more power in their relationships, families, and lives; * People who see children as a source of family labor or national wealth; * People so…