‘sex and the media’

Our Addiction to Tiger Woods’ “Sex Addiction”

What’s wrong with Tiger Woods? Three words: I. Don’t. Know. For weeks I’ve been flooded with media inquiries, all focused on Tiger’s alleged sex addiction. I’ve become the go-to guy when the media wants a professional with a different point of view on this. And so from Dr. Phil to Nightline, and on radio stations like Live 25 in Oklahoma City, people have been asking me if the guy’s a sex addict. And if he isn’t, what is he? My answer’s always the same: I’ve never met the guy, I don’t know him, I don’t know why he did what…

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Those Beautiful Olympic Bodies

Yes, their commitment to excellence is inspiring, their tenacity is beyond comprehension, their personal stories are (occasionally) fascinating. And there’s that whole agony-of-defeat thing from which we seemingly just cannot turn away. With all the statistics, superlatives, and medals, does nobody notice—these men and women are good-looking! Viewing this fortnight’s competition out of Vancouver, there are bodies for every taste—short and tall, wide and narrow, Nordic, African, Asian. We even have competitors from the planet’s genetic melting pots, such as Mongolia, Nepal, Montenegro, and Israel. But with all the enthusiastic commentary (and equally enthusiastic blather) coming at me in High…

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Freeing Ourselves From Valentine’s Day

I don’t expect to have sex on Valentine’s Day. Neither should you. It’s OK if it happens, of course; I just don’t expect it. My patients have shown me over and over that expectations like that create problems. It’s even worse when you don’t tell your partner what you’re assuming. But say you’re like many people. You look forward to sex on Valentines Day, or your birthday, anniversary, weekend away, or the day that the kids are with their uncle. You buy a bottle of champagne, or frilly underwear, or flavored condoms. Maybe you drop a few hints. Maybe your…

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Speaking As Janet Jackson’s Nipple…

…I gotta say I’m kinda confused. OK, I’m peeved. When I think of what you people put me through after the 2004 Superbowl, I shiver—and not in a good way. That ½-second shot of me during halftime? First, you accused me of ruining not just half-time, but the rest of the game. Then Morality In Media starts a campaign to punish CBS, which the FCC eventually did. For months, congressmembers competed to see who could denounce me the loudest. Eventually this led to the federal government increasing the fines for on-air “indecency” by 1,000%. People even trashed me during the…

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Supreme Court: Free Expression Crucial—Unless It’s About Sex

You’ve heard about the recent Supreme Court decision in Citizens United v. Federal Election Commission. Overturning the heart of the McCain-Feingold Act, the Court said that corporate donations to elections cannot be limited because it would violate the First Amendment. How bad is this? Said the New York Times, “The Supreme Court has handed lobbyists a new weapon. A lobbyist can now tell any elected official: if you vote wrong, my company, labor union or interest group will spend unlimited sums explicitly advertising against your re-election.” Former Supreme Court Justice Sandra Day O’Connor added she is concerned that “the problem…

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Fantasy On Trial (Again)

I’m on my way home from Denver, where I testified as an expert witness at a deeply troubling trial—a trial that’s become way too common in America. Here’s the situation: The defendant “Mr. Jones” goes into a Yahoo adult chat-room, and makes it clear he wants to have conversations about sexually dominating a young person. A person responds—let’s call her “Missy”—who says she’s a teen who would gladly chat with a wiser, older man about the ins and outs of sexual things. “Missy” says she’s 14, and she and “Mr. Jones” proceed to exchange hundreds and hundreds of emails, IMs,…

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