‘sex offenders’

Great News for Parents: Internet MUCH Safer Than You Thought

For years, Americans have been hearing how dangerous the internet is: full of perverts, predators, and other horrible creatures who want to eat our young. We’ve been told that chatrooms are full of adults pretending to be teens, and that sites like MySpace and Facebook are full of adults trying to lure our kids onto Greyhound buses and into unspeakable hells. Americans love these salacious stories, repeating them even while recoiling from them. We follow the gothic kidnap tales on CNN or Fox, the seduction bodice-rippers (jeans-rippers? thong-rippers?) climaxing in some depraved horror. We then beatify the victim (if they’re…

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Cop Show Cites Sexual Science—Accurately!

TV shows like CSI and Law & Order portray more sexual violence and perversion in an hour than I see in my sex therapy practice in a month. Such programs are among the worst of TV’s portrayals of sexuality: they show eroticism as the focus of problems and impulsive decisions, as a dangerous form of energy that’s always on the verge of exploding and damaging people, families, and communities. These shows lie about sex every week, stereotyping people who enjoy sex as voracious, depicting S/M as primarily about violence and humiliation, exaggerating any non-standard sex as terribly kinky. But I…

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Eleven Things About Sex I Wish Lawyers and Judges Knew

Because I periodically appear in court as an expert witness, and consult with lawyers and people in trouble, I’ve learned a bit about what attorneys and judges know about sex. Like physicians, physical therapists, and psychologists, it’s very little. They really need to know more. Not about fallopian tubes and HIV, but about the role sex plays in real peoples’ lives. About how they actually make decisions. And about how Americans are more similar to each other in the bedroom than the overheated rhetoric of Bill O’Reilly and the abstinence-only crowd suggests. The justice system gets involved with sexuality on…

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