‘sexual culture’

Rocky Raccoon and Gideon’s Bible

It’s an official trend: upscale hotels are removing their in-room Bibles, often replacing them with “intimacy kits” containing condoms. The American Family Association, noting that the number of luxury hotels with in-room Bibles has dropped 18% since 2001, is predictably outraged: “Without action now, it is simply a matter of time before other chains remove the Bibles.” And the problem with that is…what? The AFA press release is just the latest reminder by the religious-industrial complex: organized religion deserves special privileges everywhere. Why a religious text in every hotel room? And why a Christian one? As the Sofitel chain explains,…

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Ending the Scourge of Strip Clubs

Sarasota County, Florida is the latest community to realize that destroying the U.S. Constitution is a small price to pay for protection from the scourge of strip clubs. The County—inundated with exactly one club—has decided that adults watching other adults take off their clothes is bad for people. Not just bad for the strippers (who are otherwise considered Trash); not just bad for those watching them (otherwise known as Perverts); but for every one of the 379,000 residents (better known as Good People Who Deserve Protection). The County is attempting to pass an ordinance that restricts what dancers can do,…

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Does “Sex Addiction” Exist? Does It Matter What You Call It?

One of America’s major websites is running a front page article today about “sex addiction.” The primary expert featured in the story is… me. That’s only fair, since I’ve spent years challenging the very concept. No reasonable person can deny that some people are involved with sex (e.g., via pornography, prostitutes, affairs, romance novels, anonymous pickups) in an unhealthy way. But the concept of “sex addiction” is part of the problem, not part of the solution. Why does it matter what you call it? Well, “frigidity” was a well-known diagnostic category for a long time. When physicians diagnosed a woman…

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Parents, Porn Isn’t the Problem

If porn were the problem, we’d all be in big trouble. Because there’s more porn out there than ever. And there’s more porn hysteria than ever. It’s a PornPanic, fed by a 24/7 machine of “morality” groups, crime shows, right wing talk shows, misguided neo-feminists, and everyday wives and husbands whose relationships are struggling while porn sites prosper. For example, America just finished WRAP—White Ribbon Against Pornography Week. (It used to be Pornography Awareness Week, until porn retailers started using it as a marketing slogan to increase sales. Now that’s guerrilla theatre worthy of Paul Krassner.) Like all anti-porn efforts,…

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Cheerio From London and Charles Darwin

I just returned from 4 days in London. Great monuments. Lousy food. Charming people. How do they stay so charming eating that lousy food? Say what you will about the Brits (the food isn’t their only fault), they gave the world parliamentary democracy. Not to deny their imperialism and funny hats, but they have often been an island of sanity (literally) in a world gone mad. And every day of my visit last week, I had some of that sanity in my hand. Their 10-pound ($20) bill features a picture of Charles Darwin on the back. Can you imagine that…

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Time To Come Out, Gay OR Straight

Today is National Coming Out Day. And it’s not just for gays and lesbians. Gay people aren’t the only ones who need support in coming out. In America, We all do: * People who are afraid their genitalia smell or look weird * People who fear their fantasies * People who hide their masturbation * People who ache to be touched differently, but won’t tell their partners * People who wish sex didn’t hurt * People who have an STD * People who fake desire or arousal * People who fake orgasm (women and men) Why do so many of…

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