Everyone knows that communication is absolutely essential to satisfying sex, right? So therapists, physicians, educators, progressive clergy, even a know-nothing like Dr. Phil are continually encouraging people to talk MORE about sex with their partners. But there’s a problem with this. Here’s how a lot of my patients communicate about sex: “Down there.” “Y’know.” “Let’s do it.” “Um.” “It.” With a vocabulary like this, more communication isn’t going to help much. As George Bernard Shaw said, “We don’t think of sex decently, so we don’t have a decent language with which to discuss it.” Let’s face it, no one requests…
Changing the Way People, Politics & the Media Look at Sex