‘Speaking Engagements’

Sex Ed & China: Ambivalent to the Core

If you’ve been following my travel blog, you know that I’ve been in China, training sex education teachers and psychology graduate students. China has 1.35 BILLION people (4 times the size of the U.S.), and has been involved in policy debates regarding family planning and sexual behavior for decades. They’re currently reevaluating their “one family, one child policy,” and of course sex education is part of the policy debate. The other night I lectured for two hours to sex education teachers-in-training at Chengdu University, in south-central China. The topic was “Teaching Sexuality Education: How? Why?” About 100 students, most between…

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Talking At Lovers

Two weeks ago I spent the weekend in Tacoma, Washington, a guest of Lovers—a large chain of high-end stores selling the latest vibrators and dildoes, whips and handcuffs, DVDs, lube, books, and a million brands of condoms. They do a lot of bachelorette parties there, so they have tons of lingerie on display. Wearing corsets, bustiers, and fishnet hose, the mannequins looked really, really hot. Oops, did I just say that out loud? I only meant to think it. The company is also committed to education. Their stated mission, in fact, is “to provide an exciting environment to explore human…

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Talking About Sex in Austria

I’ve been in Graz, Austria since Friday, teaching a couples seminar on Authenticity. We spent today discussing sexuality. Actually, I did most of the discussing. Talking about sex is not something people in Austria do easily. When they did talk about sex today, it was mostly to discredit talking about sex. “Asking your boyfriend questions about sex takes the fun away,” said one 30-something businesswoman. “Yes,” agreed another, “it takes time. And it makes everything too slow.” “You just get into hassles,” said a tall man from Slovenia in his late twenties. “You say something, she disagrees, and soon you…

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Family Foundation of Kentucky Calls Me Out

I spoke at the University of Kentucky a few days ago as part of their Sex Week. The Family Foundation of Kentucky was terribly upset about the Week’s various activities, insulting the faculty organizer and demanding the school repudiate the whole thing. FFK says it is astonished and confused by the Week’s goal, which is to increase sexual literacy. Sarcastically, they wonder “That’s right. Today’s college students apparently don’t know enough about sex. If you didn’t get that memo, don’t worry, neither did we.” What would make FFK think college students know enough about sex? Like most “family” oriented morality…

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Training Professionals Here In Azerbaijan

This is my 6th day of a two-week trip in Azerbaijan, a country bordered by Turkey, Iran, and Russia. To follow my exploits, see www.MartyInAz.com. I gave several lectures in Baku this week: to psychologists, and to public health professionals at the Ministry of Health. I did them all in English, working with a translator. I say something, wait, she says something; I say something, wait, she says something. I’ve done this before in other countries, and never like it; it’s hard to get a rhythm going, but more importantly, it cuts down the amount of material I can present…

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My Next Seminars for Therapists: 1) Infidelity; 2) Intakes & First Sessions

My next two seminars for therapists (and physicians, social workers, and other clinicians) will be May 1 and 2 at the beautiful Fairmont Hotel in San Jose, CA. Once again, I’m an invited speaker for the annual meeting of the California Association of Marriage & Family Therapists. The seminars are described below; click here for registration information. Affairs & Infidelity: Betrayal, Negotiation, Reconciliation, Self-Esteem This presentation examines how to help couples recover from infidelity–and common clinical ideas which can undermine that recovery. Participants will learn how to sort out individual and relationship issues as we address questions like: • Why…

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