Training Webinars

In today’s hyper-modern, virtual world, everything seems to have changed. Traditional therapy approaches just don’t work as effectively as they used to.

Working for over 30 years in the heart of Silicon Valley, I’ve been developing creative ways to harness what we’ve learned about people and relationships, coupled with what we’ve learned about linguistics, culture, history, and how narratives are constructed.

The result is a set of powerful therapeutic tools that are counter-intuitive—which I’m happy to share. These techniques are NOT a rigid approach–you can adapt them to whatever kind of therapy you do. They will make your sessions more powerful, will motivate your clients to return, and will make therapy more enjoyable for you

And yes, these methods work in the video settings we’re all now using.

 

Working With Infidelity:
After An Affair, Who Owns The Relationship?

Cellphone records, email passwords, intimate details of when & where—after an affair, does one person gain the right to whatever information they want? And even if they do, is demanding such information wise? Who decides if—and what—the children are told?

Supporting the dignity and humanity of both parties gives a couple the best chance to reconcile, should they want to. The idea that the Betrayer has to beg forgiveness for an undefined time period and accept whatever relationship the Betrayed demands is a disservice to both parties. And it typically leads to client dropouts or treatment failure.

Successful treatment of infidelity cases must also involve the Betrayer’s clear insights about the emotional, psychological, and practical reasons for breaking their promise of fidelity.

In three fast-moving sessions, participants will learn fresh ways of looking at affairs, fidelity, and sexuality—so that they can better evaluate patients, sort out individual and relationship issues, and help people heal from the experiences of powerlessness, disorientation, grief, rage, and damaged self-esteem that are common on both sides of betrayal.

This 12-hour course is designed to meet substantial requirements of the AASECT and SASH credentialing processes. You can also earn 12 CEs (APA, NASW, LPCC, AASECT, etc.) by attending all three sessions (partial credit is not available).

 

More Info — Includes 12 CEUs

 

If It’s Not “Sex Addiction,” What Is It?

And How Do You Treat It?

The sex addiction movement addresses fundamental human issues: lust, desire, guilt, fantasy, decision-making, and the relationship of love & sex. The answers generated by this model, however, have important limitations—and for many people, sex addiction treatment is disastrous, contradicting the best practices of psychotherapy and couples counseling.

We will examine how patients’ seemingly out-of-control sexual behavior may really involve:

  • medicating their depression, anxiety or anhedonia
  • acting out (unconscious) hostility
  • fear of getting too close to a primary partner
  • attempting to remain in a low-sex or no-sex relationship
  • unresolved conflict with religious values
  • an arousal disorder, recurring sexual dysfunction, or disturbing sexual preference

When we realize that almost every patient who regrets their sexual decision-making is not out of control—is not “addicted”—we’re free to use our best psychotherapeutic tools. So how can we best diagnose and successfully treat these patients?

We’ll also look at the new narrative of porn addiction—is there really such a thing? What are better ways to evaluate—and treat—patients who use porn self-destructively? And what do we do with couples when one partner is obsessed with the other’s porn watching?

 

More Info — Includes 3 CEUs

 

What Do I Do Now?:
When We Feel Resentful, Bored, or Powerless in Session

More than we like or expect, we periodically find ourselves not knowing what to do in session—while feeling resentful, bored, confused, or powerless.

Rather than being surprised when this happens, we should expect it. These feelings are baked into psychotherapy and couples counseling—regardless of anyone’s clinical orientation. We’ll look at the architecture of the therapeutic relationship, which provides clues about what to do when we don’t know what to do.

We’ll discuss approaches that include wrestling with our own boundaries; having really clear therapeutic goals (which many patients will challenge); predicting that couples will gang up on us; and sharpening our skills at identifying, challenging, and reframing patients’ narratives.

 

More Info — Includes 2 CEUs

 

Sexual Issues In Couples Therapy:
Practical Skills for Common Problems

Whether the presenting problem involves infidelity, desire differences, sexual dysfunction, or questions about kink or non-monogamy, we deal with couples’ sexuality every week. Here’s a 15-hour course to enhance your effectiveness in this difficult but rewarding area.

In 4 fast-moving, thought-provoking sessions, you’ll learn practical information and skills, involving issues like:

  • What is NOT a sexual problem?
  • Helping couples navigate one partner’s porn use
  • Common therapists’ myths about sex that reduce our effectiveness
  • Helping couples when one partner wants sex more than the other, or wants activities that the other partner doesn’t
  • Helping couples when their sexuality is impacted by religious beliefs, or by trauma, the aging process, or health issues
  • Working with couples who don’t want to discuss sex—but REALLY need to.

This 15-hour course is designed to meet substantial requirements of the AASECT and SASH credentialing processes. You can also earn 15 CE’s (APA, NASW, LPCC, AASECT, etc.) by attending all four sessions (partial credit is not available).

 

More Info — Includes 15 CEUs

 

When Porn Is The Issue:
Working With Couples & Individuals

We’re seeing more and more couples in conflict over one partner’s porn use.

To help us work more deeply with such cases, this workshop focuses on treating intrapsychic conflicts, power struggles, and existential issues relating to porn use. We’ll look at how one or both partners may be acting out body image issues, and why “porn addiction” is not a helpful concept.

We’ll explore how conflict about pornography is often used to avoid confronting a sexual relationship’s deficits. And we’ll look at various sexual issues—such as desire, arousal, and masturbation—that should be raised when working with these cases.

 

More Info — Includes 3 CEUs

 

Sexual Intelligence: Empowering People To Create Sex That Works

Patients typically want sex to be simple, natural, and spontaneous—but it isn’t.

We can’t make sex natural or spontaneous, but we CAN make it less complicated. We can empower people with the emotional, communication, and practical tools they need. And we can help them reshape their narratives, developing ideas about sex that involve adequacy, pleasure, intimacy, and fun.

Despite social factors—including religion, our sex-negative culture, and Hollywood and porn—we can help people face their personal issues: WHY they’re afraid or angry about sex, WHY they won’t communicate with their partner, WHY they fear their fantasies and preferences, WHY they’re afraid of failing in bed. And why they are SO embarrassed or ashamed.

 

More Info — Includes 3 CEUs

 

Sexual Intelligence: A New Approach to Sexual “Function” & Satisfaction

What do most men & women say they want from sex? Pleasure and closeness. But during sex, most people typically focus on how they look, smell, and sound; obsess on what their partner is thinking; try to manage distracting thoughts; and most of all, their “performance.”

That leads to precisely what so many people fear: sexual “dysfunctions” like erection, orgasm, or desire problems. To enhance intimacy and satisfaction, improving our genital “function” is the exact wrong approach. Better friction doesn’t create what people really want from sex: a sense of relaxation, self-acceptance, & connection. The innovative Sexual Intelligence Approach does.

 

More Info — Includes 3 CEUs

 

Intakes & First Sessions

First sessions are about gathering information to understand what a given client or couple needs, and generating a tentative treatment approach. Our initial plan is developed on the run, designed to provide the experiences, information, perspective, and relationship we believe the client needs.

The goal of a first session is to have a second session. How do we find the right balance—providing enough therapy to launch our therapeutic alliance without scaring people away by doing too much therapy?

 

More Info — Includes 3 CEUs

 

Sex, Love, & Intimacy

Have sex, love, and intimacy changed? Most people still want some combination of all three. Technology gives us the illusion that we’re connected to more and more people—but our clients seem more comfortable relating to their devices than to each other. Sex seems more awkward than playful. Relationship rules appear to have changed–but no one seems to know what they are.

Here are therapeutic approaches that help people explore what they want from relationships. What makes them hesitate to pursue what they want? What stories do they tell themselves that keep them stuck? And what assumptions do we therapists have that limit our own clinical effectiveness?

 

More Info — Includes 6 CEUs

 

Working with Couples

There’s SO much going on in couples sessions: power dynamics, contrasting narratives, cultural assumptions, old wounds, the lack of agreements about household routines—not to mention our own counter-transference.

In this program we’ll examine the architecture of couples, and of couples therapy. What are the building blocks that every successful couple needs—and how do we help people develop them? What are some reliable techniques we can use with couples who won’t cooperate, or when we get stuck?

 

More Info — Includes 6 CEUs

 

For each webinar you will receive:

  • Video presentations you can watch at your convenience–as many times as you like
  • Powerpoint slides used during webinar
  • Ideas, interventions, and home assignments you can use IMMEDIATELY
  • CEUs (APA, MFTs, LPCs, Nurses, AASECT) upon completion of evaluation

Yours to keep—to watch, listen, and share with your students or colleagues.

RESULTS:

More powerful sessions
Fewer client dropouts
More client referrals

 

Dr. Marty Klein is a California-Licensed MFT and Certified Sex Therapist. The author of 7 books about sex and relationships, he trains psychologists & physicians across the US & Europe. Audiences call his seminars thought-provoking, practical, and entertaining—so you’ll be laughing while you learn. For more about Marty, see www.SexEd.org.

 

“Marty Klein liberates and provokes—and illuminates the way to change our sexual experience for good.”
–Esther Perel, author of Mating in Captivity

“To improve your sex life, read Marty Klein’s book Sexual Intelligence.”
Psychology Today