In today’s hyper-modern, virtual world, everything seems to have changed. Traditional therapy approaches just don’t work as effectively as they used to.
Working for over 30 years in the heart of Silicon Valley, I’ve been developing creative ways to harness what we’ve learned about people and relationships, coupled with what we’ve learned about linguistics, culture, history, and how narratives are constructed.
The result is a set of powerful therapeutic tools that are counter-intuitive—which I’m happy to share. These techniques are NOT a rigid approach–you can adapt them to whatever kind of therapy you do. They will make your sessions more powerful, will motivate your clients to return, and will make therapy more enjoyable for you.
And yes, these methods work in the video settings we’re all now using.
Sexual Intelligence: Empowering People To Create Sex That Works
Patients typically want sex to be simple, natural, and spontaneous—but it isn’t.
We can’t make sex natural or spontaneous, but we CAN make it less complicated. We can empower people with the emotional, communication, and practical tools they need. And we can help them reshape their narratives, developing ideas about sex that involve adequacy, pleasure, intimacy, and fun.
Despite social factors—including religion, our sex-negative culture, and Hollywood and porn—we can help people face their personal issues: WHY they’re afraid or angry about sex, WHY they won’t communicate with their partner, WHY they fear their fantasies and preferences, WHY they’re afraid of failing in bed. And why they are SO embarrassed or ashamed.
Sexual Intelligence: A New Approach to Sexual “Function” & Satisfaction
What do most men & women say they want from sex? Pleasure and closeness. But during sex, most people typically focus on how they look, smell, and sound; obsess on what their partner is thinking; try to manage distracting thoughts; and most of all, their “performance.”
That leads to precisely what so many people fear: sexual “dysfunctions” like erection, orgasm, or desire problems. To enhance intimacy and satisfaction, improving our genital “function” is the exact wrong approach. Better friction doesn’t create what people really want from sex: a sense of relaxation, self-acceptance, & connection. The innovative Sexual Intelligence Approach does.
Intakes & First Sessions
First sessions are about gathering information to understand what a given client or couple needs, and generating a tentative treatment approach. Our initial plan is developed on the run, designed to provide the experiences, information, perspective, and relationship we believe the client needs.
The goal of a first session is to have a second session. How do we find the right balance—providing enough therapy to launch our therapeutic alliance without scaring people away by doing too much therapy?
Sex, Love, & Intimacy
Have sex, love, and intimacy changed? Most people still want some combination of all three. Technology gives us the illusion that we’re connected to more and more people—but our clients seem more comfortable relating to their devices than to each other. Sex seems more awkward than playful. Relationship rules appear to have changed–but no one seems to know what they are.
Here are therapeutic approaches that help people explore what they want from relationships. What makes them hesitate to pursue what they want? What stories do they tell themselves that keep them stuck? And what assumptions do we therapists have that limit our own clinical effectiveness?
Working with Couples
There’s SO much going on in couples sessions: power dynamics, contrasting narratives, cultural assumptions, old wounds, the lack of agreements about household routines—not to mention our own counter-transference.
In this program we’ll examine the architecture of couples, and of couples therapy. What are the building blocks that every successful couple needs—and how do we help people develop them? What are some reliable techniques we can use with couples who won’t cooperate, or when we get stuck?
For each webinar you will receive:
- Video presentations you can watch at your convenience–as many times as you like
- Powerpoint slides used during webinar
- Ideas, interventions, and home assignments you can use IMMEDIATELY
- CEUs (APA, MFTs, LPCs, Nurses, AASECT) upon completion of evaluation
Yours to keep—to watch, listen, and share with your students or colleagues.
More powerful sessions
Fewer client dropouts
More client referrals
Dr. Marty Klein is a California-Licensed MFT and Certified Sex Therapist. The author of 7 books about sex and relationships, he trains psychologists & physicians across the US & Europe. Audiences call his seminars thought-provoking, practical, and entertaining—so you’ll be laughing while you learn. For more about Marty, see www.SexEd.org.
“Marty Klein liberates and provokes—and illuminates the way to change our sexual experience for good.”
–Esther Perel, author of Mating in Captivity
“To improve your sex life, read Marty Klein’s book Sexual Intelligence.”