WRAP Week: Their Mission is Lying About Porn

Share This Article

Every November 1, the White Ribbon Against Pornography (WRAP) week mobilizes America’s community leaders, religious figures, and politicians. Their goal is to spread lies and hysteria about the dangers of adult pornography, and its alleged connections with sex trafficking, domestic violence, and child exploitation.

I have written about this cynical, shameful project many times: (https://goo.gl/fYS2KEhttps://goo.gl/4juJRQhttps://goo.gl/HHkHKo).

This year I’ve gone to their website, and will challenge some of its most destructive lies.  I invite anyone from the WRAP campaign to provide actual data showing that I’m wrong.

WRAP Lie: Most porn is violent

The people most obsessed with violent porn are anti-porn activists.

First, unless you specifically search for violent porn, a random cruise on any porn site shows almost exclusively happy characters doing things that please their partners and themselves. Second, most porn is pleasant, not violent, because that’s what most consumers want—from actual sex as well as from sexual fantasy.

Third, we must always ask anti-porn activists “how do you define ‘violent porn?’” Crusaders have given me examples such as “fellatio,” “threesomes,” and “spanking.” What formula does an activist use to decide that these (or anything else) are “violent?” According to that algorithm, what, besides gentle kissing, isn’t violent?

WRAP Lie: Porn teaches men to disrespect women

What do men learn about women from porn?

That women like sexual pleasure. That women almost always orgasm. That women have a clitoris, which they enjoy being stimulated. That women like a wide range of sexual activities and yes, that many women enjoy touching, licking, and sucking a man’s penis.

Porn generally exaggerates women’s enthusiasm—as it exaggerates men’s. And porn generally exaggerates women’s satisfaction—as it does men’s. That’s what fiction does, of course: think of Wizard of Oz, Fame, Harry Potter.

But interest in pleasure is hardly disrespectful. Millions of Americans consult sex therapists every year hoping to become more interested in sexual pleasure—and don’t consider it “disrespectful” that their partners want that, too.

And what about the facial ejaculation, the spanking, the gangbangs and huge penises? These are almost always portrayed as delighting the women involved. That may not be realistic, but giving a woman what she wants is hardly “disrespectful,” even if a viewer disapproves of her preferences. 

WRAP Lie: Porn hijacks the brain’s reward system and shrinks the brain

WRAP cites a single 2014 study to support this, but the authors themselves admit they can’t say whether porn use shrinks the brain (actually the brain’s tiny Right Caudate), or if people with smaller Right Caudates prefer porn more than others.

As far as porn “hijacking the brain’s reward system,” so does everything that we find pleasurable. That’s why it’s hard to pull ourselves away from pasta, Michael Jackson, and Game of Thrones. Anti-porn activists are fond of pointing out that on brain scans, the brain “lights up” in response to porn the same way that it responds to using cocaine. They forget to mention that the brain lights up that way when we watch a sunset, pet a dog, or smell our baby. That’s our brain—a gigantic pleasure-seeking reward system.

WRAP Lie: Adult porn is a gateway drug to child porn

This one is so ridiculous, I can’t believe anyone believes it.

Imagine the Board meeting of a porn production company: “Fellow Board members, we are making a lot of money creating and distributing a legal product to an enormous number of people. I propose we add a new product: it’s 100% illegal, has a very small market, and if we get caught, we’ll each go to jail for a thousand years, during which time murderers and psychopaths will rape us in jail out of disgust for what we’ve done.”

How many business people do you think would go for that? And that’s why it doesn’t happen. The creation and distribution of child porn is almost exclusively a small-time, private (and yes, completely illegal) operation in the darkest corners of the internet.

Besides, what adult porn could you possibly watch that would make you start hunting for—or creating—child porn?

* * * *

In general, anti-porn activism in the home of The Big Lie. For twenty-five years now, anti-porn groups like Concerned Women for America and National Center on Sexual Exploitation have repeated over and over that there’s a direct causal link between Porn, Prostitution, and Trafficking.

This supposed connection is just a train-wreck of human reasoning: lumping in:

~ a legal, private, consenting (by definition, since it’s private) form of self-expression, with…

~ a mostly (misdemeanor) illegal, albeit victimless-unless-it-involves-coercion, typically consenting, semi-private form of self-expression, with…

~ a hideous, totally illegal felony, coercive by definition, that has no redeeming aspect whatsoever.

WRAP Week: Brought to you by people who don’t trust your sexual imagination, don’t want your kids to get proper school sex education, and refuse to believe that some women, like some men, are lusty—and not apologetic about it.

~~~~~~~~~~

If you liked this, I bet you’ll enjoy my piece at www.MartyKlein.com/another-guy-who-isnt-a-sex-addict

Share This Article

0 Comments
Previous Post
Next Post