In America, sex and alcohol go together like peanut butter and jelly. Or a fish and a bicycle. Or desire and guilt.
Consciously or not, people combine alcohol and sex for four main reasons: to increase desire, disinhibit themselves or a partner, cope with pain, or manage anxiety.
Unfortunately, mixing alcohol and sex can have some very unwanted consequences. For starters…
In every generation there are sexual things that people are not supposed to discuss or even see.
Some sexual words and images that used to be taboo are now considered valuable.
Today, the new taboos are sexual questions we can’t ask. Why?
What Is kinky sex? Does It matter?
There’s actually no exact definition of kink, so feel free to say that what you do is or isn’t kinky.
Your sexuality is an experience, not a category. Shakespeare had it right—a rose smells the same no matter what you call it.
But you might be more willing to smell something if I told you it was a flower rather than a skunk. And so some people stay away from exploring sexual behaviors they might enjoy just because they think the activities are “kinky”—“and,” they emphasize, “I’m not a kinky person.”
“Consent” is only one aspect of sexuality; focussing on it too much distracts us from other important policy issues regarding sex. It also ignores the central role of ambivalence and ambiguity in sexual decision-making.
Here are some suggested resolutions regarding your sexual behavior in 2019—specifically, what you should promise yourself to NOT do.
BDSM: Why do some people enjoy this? Are they mentally unstable, or unable to love? Should more couples try it? Is BDSM an orientation, like being gay?