Every week I ask patients lots and lots of questions. Sometimes I get a straight answer. Often, someone will dance around an issue, or avoid the question by answering a different one.
When patients ask me a question, though, I either give them a direct answer–or I challenge the question itself.
Here are examples of questions that I generally don’t answer directly–because I’m challenging the assumptions…
I write books about sex and relationships. Too long for some people, I also write articles about sex and relationships. Too long for some people, I now post about sex and relationships on Instagram.
Interested in infidelity, desire, empathy, porn, or orgasm? Here are some of my favorite posts, each with a bit of explanation.
There’s no one right way to navigate infidelity, whether your own or your partner’s.
But there are some wrong ways. After 44 years as a marriage counselor, I’ve seen thousands of people make the same set of mistakes AFTER infidelity has been revealed.
Here are the most common:
~ Decide…
Why do 100,000,000 people care about the trivial incident involving the Coldplay concert’s KissCam?
Why are people participating in, and revelling in, the destruction of these two strangers?
How are we supposed to be fully human in a world like this? And what’s it like for every young person to be growing up in public now?
Chances are, your therapist received almost no clinical training in sexuality–probably less than any other common human activity.
Western culture is full of ambivalence, fear, and misinformation about sex. So we shouldn’t be surprised if your therapist has absorbed a lot of that negativity—which probably wasn’t challenged during their training.
When you add in a strong dose of modern psychology’s political correctness, therapy customers need to be careful if their concerns are sexual. Here are examples…
Every week, I counsel men and women heartbroken over infidelity.
And every week, I try to prevent those people from making big mistakes. If it’s already too late, I help people deal with the consequences of their big mistakes.
Frequently, nearly everyone in the Betrayed’s life is encouraging them to make big mistakes. That can even include their therapist. It most certainly includes the internet and social media.