Dr. Debby Herbenick’s latest research from the Kinsey Institute shows that an astounding number of young people are engaged in choking (actually, strangling) during sex.
Are they really enjoying it—or has sex become more about power than about pleasure and connection?
Porn? Almost everyone has questions—and opinions.
Here’s an FAQ with questions and answers you won’t find elsewhere.
What Is kinky sex? Does It matter?
There’s actually no exact definition of kink, so feel free to say that what you do is or isn’t kinky.
Your sexuality is an experience, not a category. Shakespeare had it right—a rose smells the same no matter what you call it.
But you might be more willing to smell something if I told you it was a flower rather than a skunk. And so some people stay away from exploring sexual behaviors they might enjoy just because they think the activities are “kinky”—“and,” they emphasize, “I’m not a kinky person.”
“Everything in the world is about sex, except sex, which is about power.” Yes, sex is sometimes about power. But sex can be about many different things. For some people it means “I can still get sex,” or “I can still get sex from a good-looking man/woman, or “I can still get sex from you.” I guess these are about power in a way, especially that last one. Here are a few more reasons that people want sex: to get attention, to get touching, to feel taken care of, to feel attractive, to challenge taboos, to assert autonomy. For some…