Some people would rather be right than enjoy sex.
They demand that sex be a certain way, no matter how narrow or unrealistic—or pointless—that is.
Many people could improve their sex lives without their partner having to change at all. What else could you ask for?
Masturbation is one of life’s miracles.
With just a small investment of time and attention, it can provide pleasure (& comfort, autonomy, exploration, & better sleep) on demand.
So what can go wrong?
Is non-monogamy a viable option? Of course—but not for everyone. It is NOT a good way to fix a broken relationship. And it takes lots of thoughtful communication.
And is poly really a sexual orientation?
Sex is usually about more than just sex.
So to improve our sex lives, it’s often necessary to explore and discuss non-sexual things.
Here are examples of patients who wondered “Why are we talking about this instead of sex?” Our successful therapy showed them why.
Words express ideas, so words are important. Editing the words of our activist heroes so they fit better with today’s political correctness is dishonest. And words like “transphobic” can be used to attack allies & well-meaning people; they educate no one, persuade no one, and may demand an ideological purity that blocks the progress of social justice.
Regardless of sexual orientation, identity, preferences, or experience, your sexuality follows certain principles–what I call Sex Laws of the Universe.
Involving desire, power, emotions, orgasm, and more, these laws…