Want to enjoy sex more, or rev up your desire?
Instead of new positions, or toys, techniques, or a new kink, identify and stop doing things that undermine your sexuality–like these.
Changing the Way People, Politics & the Media Look at Sex
Want to enjoy sex more, or rev up your desire?
Instead of new positions, or toys, techniques, or a new kink, identify and stop doing things that undermine your sexuality–like these.
Is anxiety increasing or decreasing your desire? Do you have enough contraception on hand? And with kids in the house, who’s having sex anyway?
Here are some thoughts about sexual aspects of our lives in a time of pandemic.
Every January I look back over the previous year’s cases. And while some issues come and go, one thing is consistent year after year: I always see a lot of couples in conflict about each other’s sexual desire.
People are more than “high desire” or “low desire,” but they–and professionals–tend to use these categories, even though they can complicate things.
Some couples are in conflict about a woman’s insistence that her partner stop watching porn.
What does she hope to gain by this?
The FDA has approved Vyleesi, which supposedly increases sexual desire in women.
It won’t work, because low desire in most women is not a biological problem to be fixed.
Joel and Marissa are very nice people. They care for each other and plan to spend their lives together. Each of them has very little sexual experience, however, and they’re having trouble getting into any sort of intimate rhythm together.
They’ve come to me while grappling with a perfect storm: very little sexual experience, very little knowledge about sex and bodies, and a lot of anxiety about sexual activity and competence. This would be enough to make sex difficult for anyone.